Rambling: 26 and never been in a relationship.

[420MissHighTimes420]

What do you have to stop? I'm not telling you to stop anything. I'm suggesting you add. It doesn't require drastic changes. Baby steps man. Going for the moon will end up in failure. Bit by bit, build it up.

Sure a person eventually has to love you for who you are, but first you have to draw them in with some attraction. That's why it's important to look good, and show you take care of yourself. How are you expected to take care of a woman if you can't take care of yourself?

Something to ponder.

You have an animal inside you, you have to let out at some point.

exactly, I only approach hot guys because why approach a ugly guy when the good looking ones might have a good personality? I know it sounds shallow but fuck it ... i wouldnt want to date an ugly guy because i dont have to , there are a ton of good looking guys with great personalities so why settle for less?
if you start to care more about ur apprence you will be able to approach more women and more will approach you. you need that whole package.

[Jibboom]

It sounds like a cliche but I think to a certain extent you only find love when you're not looking. I don't think this means you can let yourself go and stay in your house 24/7 playing games/watching movies and expecting it just to happen because it won't. As others have said exercising will not only make you feel better thanks to the release of endorphins, but it will make you feel better also when you start seeing the effects it has on your body. I would think that maybe getting a few activities where you'll mix with females is a step in the right direction also.

"Personally if I could remove all sexual desire from my being. I would do so."

Dude, if you met a girl you hit it off with and you heard her say this to one of her friends, what would you think? I'm guessing you're giving off some sort of signals like this to girls you do meet, and it's unsurprising you don't get many that are interested. I mean this in a nice way, so please don't take offence.

It's all in your mind mate, small changes are what is required now. Go to some bars and just talk to women without any intention of picking them up, pick women that you consider not particularly attractive, seeing as you don't find yourself attractive you might feel on a more level-playing field and so can be more relaxed and just work on your confidence.

[LegalizeTheGreen]

nearly every post above this seems to agree you cant expect to draw in the women without effort, so perhaps there is somthing to this? It doesnt take alot to lose weight. I used to be overweight in HS, but as a junior i decided to do some weightlifting (nothing serious, just like 45 min every other night) and didnt even do any cardio (i hate running), but the main thing is changing how you eat.

It isnt just about losing weight either, how do you think all those twinkies and mountain dew affect your body? thats what everyone is talking about in terms of respecting your body.

I managed to lose 30 lbs in NO TIME just by eating healthy and doing a little weight training. It isnt hard, i promise you. Just try to cut out sugar, simple carbs, and fatty foods. Try cooking chicken breast instead of steak. Turkey burgers instead of hamburgers. Make a high protein fruit smoothie in the morning instead of pancakes. The main thing though is there is NO DOWNSIDE! eating healthy will improve every aspect of your life. You can still game and do whatever else you want, just eat healthy and spend 1/24th of your day, every other day, excercising.

remember, nothing tastes as good as being healthy feels.

[Melkane]

I managed to lose 30 lbs in NO TIME just by eating healthy and doing a little weight training. It isnt hard, i promise you. Just try to cut out sugar, simple carbs, and fatty foods. Try cooking chicken breast instead of steak. Turkey burgers instead of hamburgers. Make a high protein fruit smoothie in the morning instead of pancakes. The main thing though is there is NO DOWNSIDE! eating healthy will improve every aspect of your life. You can still game and do whatever else you want, just eat healthy and spend 1/24th of your day, every other day, excercising.

remember, nothing tastes as good as being healthy feels.

But what do you do when you can't stand those above foods? Hmm? I can't stand chicken or seafood...hell I don't even like steak to be truthful. Turkey meat tastes nasty as hell I tried using it as substitute a few times because it was cheaper and man that crap is gross. This is one of the main issues I have. I simply cannot eat foods I hate. I'm a fast food junky it's all that tastes good to me, besides a select few home cooked meals that I tolerate. I'd rather have a double cheeseburger from McDonalds than the juiciest steak. You should actually enjoy the foods you eat and if every meal makes you want to hurl, you are eating the wrong foods.

[HighTillIDie]

lol excuses... man i was once in the 150lbs overweight club... women never looked at me, but maybe every 1000 years, and then only out of pity... i was very bitter just like you man... very jaded... thought JUST like you

BUT, you have to pay to play... i started making healthy changes to my life... started looking better, my confidence went up... and i found what kind of woman i really like, and what kind i attract, and ect... i am by no means in a long lasting relationship... i am single right now... but thanks to several years of dating and playing the field, and not too mention making a fool out of myself... i don't worry about women anymore... i don't wait for anyone... i just go about my life, and enjoy the company of many women.

i am proud of the changes i have made, how i look, and who i am. i know there is better looking, and blah blah blah... but i kick ass and it was all my hard work that made it happen.

i say quit living unhealthy... of course it is easier that way... but so what that is irresponsible and lazy... and that is why thinner people stay away from overweight... most overweight people are lazy and irresponsible... not too mention the social problems it can create (jaded john syndrome)

i don't want to talk too much about my real life, but i do this shit for a living man... but you either want to get into the game or not... you sound scared to compete for women... which is what it is... and you mention that women should think this way blah blah blah... everyone has to be sexually attracted to their mate... or sexually attracted to something about them (money is a popular choice)...

not pickin on you, i just think you should give your pecker a chance... just remember, it doesn't matter how small it is... if she uses a dildo too... lo

[LuckyG]

I didn't read through the entire thread, but Melkane, it sounds to me like you have a pretty negative attitude towards a lot of stuff, including any helpful suggestions from fellow forum members. Women pick up on that kind of thing pretty quick, and I wouldn't doubt that's half of the reason why they aren't into you.

My thoughts? Do what I did - stop caring about getting laid, and get out there and do things that make you feel good. Turn off your TV and try exercising, getting a hobby, eating healthier or less. Clean up your place, throw out stuff you don't like or are just keeping for sentimental value, rearrange your furniture, build up a wardrobe that you like. Keep a positive outlook on life. Don't spend all your time damning yourself for your faults, and try to minimize or eliminate them. Set goals or challenges and try to achieve them. Soon you'll be feeling great about yourself, and it'll be apparent to the people around you too.

Just my two cents. :twocents:

[snowblind]

the reason you like all the fast foods is because they are designed for you to like them. they have addatives, suugars and fats in them that make your body release chemicals that makes you want them more.
you started this post so you must want to do something about you situation adn all the suggestions that i see and people trying to help you you come up with more excuses.
the reason you dont like any other food at the moment is because you have conditioned yourself to not like it, physically and mentally.
cooking food and being healthy requires a little bit of effort, and yes at the begginging it is ardous to prepare veg and marinade meat. but after a while you begin to enjoy it. cookin is really easy too. once everything is prepared its just like a big jigsaw, putting the right things together at the right times.
the post about the testosterone is true, women are attracted to pheromones in men and vice vers that are agitated by our relative sexual chemicals.
bodies are like finely oiled machines and need to be well cared for, junk food doesnt do this. and im sorry to say it, but its why you are fat.
you sound apathetic and unmotivated to do anything about your situation, but subconsciously you must becuase you wouldnt have posted otherwise.
the women issue isn't really the main issue here, i personally think it is with yourself. but i cant descibe enough what exercise and a healthy diet will do for you. you'll feel like a new man and be bouncing off the walls. you will probably want to go out and inturn your happiness and personality will attract more women, because you will look better, wont smell and be happy.
your current life seems to me to be full of easy alternative, games apposed to human interaction and exercise and junk food as apposed to healthy food.
if you love games so much, why not try and get into the industry, go back to college.

no one here can tell you what to do, only offer help and thats all im trying to do. maybe it would be better if you looked at your junk food and gaming as addictions and tried to break them. limit them and use them as goals to reward yourself. an hour of wow for a 15 minutate jog. or a big mac on a sunday if you eat and prepare all your own meals for a week.

the only way you will ever get out of the rut of your life if with self disipline and self beleif

no one hear can do that

but we will always be here to support

the rest is up to you big guy

peace and progress
snowblind

who know this time next year you could be a whole new you

[JD1stTimer]

It isnt just about losing weight either, how do you think all those twinkies and mountain dew affect your body?

You don't necessarily have to eat junk food to be ridiculously overweight... I always eat healthy food and I don't even like most sweets, but I still can gain weight just by eating too much healthy food and not making special time to exercise. I also know people who eat junk food all the time, rarely exercise, and stay thin all the time.... what I'm saying is, some people are more sensitive to calorie issues than others. We have to work a lot harder than the naturally thins in order to stay on top of it. Case in point is myself... I can gain like 5 pounds in a week if I just add two pieces of toast to my dinner instead of just one every day.. I'm pretty sure it wouldn't be that drastic for most people..

[snowblind]

thats brutal, u wudn't think that 7 slices of toasted even weighed 5lbs

[snowblind]

anyway dude what was the hooker like, was she a hottie. did u make her moan? did she put a condom on ur dick wit her mouth ?