not to downplay the 'someone special' thing, b/c it definitely is important to have sex for the right reasons. but my advice would be don't get TOO caught up on finding that precisely right person. what i mean to say is... my first time was with a female, my girlfriend of 3 years (though i don't remember at what point in those 3 years when we first had sex...) and we had a good sex life.

Since her I've had several other girlfriends, and, to the surprise of many people around me, a boyfriend. And the thing about that FIRST person I slept with is that, even though it was a very nice memory, and even though it was a very good experience (i thiiiiiiiiink i lost it on Valentines Day?) i don't look back on that 1 first time and decide that it dominates my sex-life after that.

Perhaps my view is different because I don't tend to have one-night stands. I usually only screw around with people Im dating, but to be honest I remember the one-nighters as well.

So basically what I'm here to say is, don't fret over it. but don't make too big of a deal about it. Just let it happen when your body and mind are ready for it. In the meantime, maybe try finding yourself a girlfriend.