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08-24-2007, 07:35 AM #41Senior Member
21-Year-Old Virgin - Normal?
I'm a 22-year-old virgin, and I can definitely feel where you're coming from. It can be extremely frustrating to know that most of your peers aren't virgins, to hear them go on and on about their sexual encounters, and to have this intense bodily urge to lose your virginity. I've been there, done that, way too many times than I care for.
But lately I've been seriously thinking about the real reasons why I've been a virgin so long. I certainly want to have sex very badly, but two things stand in my way.
The first is that I too have historically had poor social skills. I have had very few friends, and the friends I do have I don't interact with that much. As for women, I've never had a girlfriend. I just have no idea how to flirt with or hit on a woman. I wouldn't know how to act, what to say, or even where to go to meet one I would like.
The second thing is that I would feel like a dick hitting on a woman just because I want to get laid. I am a huge feminist, and I just don't have it in me to treat a woman like a sex object. I know that's what my peers do. They go out to the bars, hit on the girl with the nicest rack and try to take her home. But I couldn't do that. I don't want women to think I'm just another dude who wants to get in their pants, and I don't want to be just another dude who wants to get in their pants. Even though I am, I don't want to act that way.
I want a woman who is reasonably attractive, reasonably smart and who likes me for who I am. I don't want some slut who will spread her legs for somebody who flirts with her just to get her into bed.
I have had two opportunities to have sex, but I declined them both. Both were kind of chunky, rather unattractive alcoholics in their 30s whom I had only known for very short periods of time. On both occasions, they were flirting with me while intoxicated and were obviously interested in sex, but I didn't want that to be my first.
I may be desperate, but that doesn't mean I can't have standards, I guess. I'm going to wait until I'm at a point in my life where I can have a serious relationship (I'm going to be moving shortly, then moving again maybe a year or so after that, so it'll be a while). And I'm going to wait for someone I can really relate with on an emotional and intellectual level, not a drunk lady who just wants some random young cock.
I'm trying to look at the positive side of things. First of all, when I do get around to it it should be a lot more fulfilling. Secondly, I know for a fact I don't have any STDs. That blister between my nutsack and my leg, I know that was just a blister. And thirdly, women are a lot less likely to think I'm some perverted sex fiend when I tell future women that I was a virgin into my early 20s, or when I tell that first woman that I'm still a virgin.
And last but not least, I'm learning humility and self-discipline. Most men desperately want sex, need sex, and think women owe them sex. I know better. I can do without it, and when I do get it, it will be because I honestly earned it. I'm not going to pressure women to have sex with me. I'm not going to lie to get women to have sex with me. I'm going to just live my life until I meet someone who's interested in me for who I am, and we'll see where things go from there.
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08-27-2007, 05:41 PM #42Senior Member
21-Year-Old Virgin - Normal?
Originally Posted by invoke
sex should always be saved for the best.. and not be superficial about it. sex is union and like you don't want to unite with some sick sh*t. unless you wanna be all superficial about it and just pay attention to looks and nothing else
haha you wanna know another thing circumcision sucks.
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08-28-2007, 01:18 AM #43Senior Member
21-Year-Old Virgin - Normal?
Short and sweet! I'm not sure what the average age for losing virginity is at the moment, but let's call it 17. Now remember those bell curves in math? Same deal! For every kid how lost his or her virginity at 13, there will be a 21 year old virgin to match and keep the average at 17! Don't hassle so much! You're just the balance for those "early bloomers". - Granny
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08-28-2007, 01:45 AM #44Member
21-Year-Old Virgin - Normal?
dude dont pressure ur self i lost mine at 13 and wasnt that great
only been with a couple of ppl since
sex is not the be all and end all
respect urself and dont just have sex with the first girl possible
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08-29-2007, 06:36 AM #45Senior Member
21-Year-Old Virgin - Normal?
Well, I personally love sex. I'm 29 and lost my virginity at 15 or 16. Dont get me wrong, sex isnt the end to all things for me but if you're doing it 'right' then one cannot deny sex can be a very fun and pleasurable experience.
I've been with girls I liked as well as girls I didnt like... I never been with an 'ugly' woman but I've slept with girls as skinny and small as 5'0" 105lbs size 00 to women as big and tall as 5'10" 225lbs size I dunno fucking know LoL
Bottom line is sex gets BETTER the more you know what you're doing. The best way to know what you're doing isnt just frequency but also variety... There is pretty much nothing I havent done and no kind of girl I couldnt handle.
I dont agree with this whole 'save yourself for someone special' BS cause the first time you fuck, whether you're in love or not, isnt going to be as mind blowing awesome as it will be when you got some experience under your belt (no pun intended).
Dont get me wrong, I'm not trying to hate on anyone here, just giving my two-cents.
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08-31-2007, 08:00 PM #46Senior Member
21-Year-Old Virgin - Normal?
Originally Posted by Profane Motherfucker
Maybe I a just talking out my ass. I don't think sex is a big fucking deal. You are probably going to get HPV.
I hope not but, well sex rocks. I say just get laid. Go ahead and have standards if you want to, but your tendency is probably too set them too high. Also, the first girl you fuck will have already been fucked by 5, 10, or even 30 or forty guys. But, who cares. fuck it. I love my wife, and we have great sex, but we both fucked a lot of other people before we got married; and sewed our wild oats. I don't care.
Yeah, just get laid dude. If you make a big deal about it, the first girl you fuck will break your heart. Just because sex becomes this big deal, you put the pussy on the pedestal, and it sucks, but only because it was the first girl who sucked your dick. And then, some other girls will suck your dick, (Maybe even two at once!) and you will think to yourself, "My bitchass first girlfriend, that slut, didn't even know how to suck a fat cock."
YOU'RE A PIMP.
Think it, believe it, do it. And wear contacts, cologne, button down shirts, and pants that fit a little better.
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