Headbanger4eva, my advice is do what you feel is right for you and your child. Unfortunately this thread shows you what you are in for as a mother. Everybody will judge everything you do. For 18 years. Every decision you make you will have people flame you. From what diaper you choose and what you feed your child to what school and toys you choose. Just do what is right for you. Stick to your guns! A lot can be said for the mother instinct. You really can sense whats right most of the time.Good luck!