Did he know you were making the dinner and planning that and then went to bowl instead? Because if he didn't, that's not quite the same thing. I know sometimes if I have specific dinner plans in my mind and have it all planned out the way it should go and yet forget to fill him in on that detail, then, well, the joke's on me because he couldn't read my mind.

If he did know about the special dinner and all the work you'd put in, he should have just been straight with you and said he wanted to use his half night off to go bowl and do some guy-bonding instead. You wouldn't have liked it, but at least you would have gotten the information directly. Above all, make sure you're not getting into a battle of control with him. By that I mean trying to control what he does, where he goes, etc. I see my sister and one of my best friends both trying to do that with their husbands, and it makes me wonder if they get men at all. That's the fastest way in the world to get them to start skipping dinner with wifey entirely and going off to the bar, the bowling alley, Wal-Mart, the electronics store, the park just so they can be themselves and be free! Just live and let live and don't harbor resentment about this incident. Your life will be so much easier and your marriage much happier.