Quote Originally Posted by zane929
Lemme start off by saying I'm 20 and gonna start my junior year of college (out-of-state) in the fall. My parents have always been very lenient with me, almost to the point of spoiling, but I've always done well in school and generally do what they ask. Two nights ago my mom came into my room and told me she had seen my lighters and had smelled a vague smokey smell coming out of the bathroom, but she thought i was smokings cigs. I just decided to be honest with her and tell her right there that I smoked pot.

She immediately burst into tears and started flipping out. She said i was ruining my life, drugs are bad, i thought you were a good kid, etc. etc. I tried to reason with her and show her some websites, studies, etc. to calm her down and explain what marijuana really is. After two days and a lot of BULLSHIT she did come to accept that pot isn't as harmful as alcohol or tobacco, but she was adamant that it was going to ruin my life because pot is a "drug" and drugs are bad, it's illegal, and that i could get arrested for it and never be able to find a good job.

She said I had to stop because she loved me so much and was so worried, and that she would do anything to get me to stop, even pulling me out of the university of chicago to go to state school and live at home. Because that's better than smoking pot right? So i promised her that I would stop, and gave her my word. Now she's made an appointment with my old doctor so he could "talk to me about my problem" and wanted me to abandon my job and summer plans (going to lollapalooza in a week, :thumbsup to go on vacation with her so she can "watch me and make sure im not addicted and can really stop". i told her flat out, no way, and it looks like she gave up on the idea.

Obviously, I'm not going to stop toking. But, i still feel guilty lying to her and for all the times that I'm going to lie from now on. Even though she reacted in such a FUCKED UP way to my honesty and treated me like a goddamn kid, i know she did it out of concern. I dont really know where i was going with this, but i had to vent. Thoughts? anyone actually read this whole thing? :jointsmile:

Honey, ya just gave momma a bit of a shock. She was probably either a stoner in school OR she never ever smoked and is brainwashed by the bad stuff that was always put in her head.

She loves you and her biggest worry is that you succeed in life, have a great job and family and and equally great future. Nothing wrong with that because ALL moms want that.

If you really feel you have things under controll, stay in the school of your choice and don't let moms panic start to dictate your life. You are 20 now. The only worry would be doing it in her house and ticking her off.
My mom accpeted us doing it in the house where we would be safe.
She didn't like it but would rather have had us home then out and about. Even our friends would make our upstairs their haven when needed.

Just give your mom some time to deal with it in her mind.
Show her you are still that Good boy she has always known.

Good luck~ I hope it all works out for you both.