So why do parents do this?

[silkyblue]

tell your parents exactly how you feel then

Id get the hell oughta there,>>>>>>>>>> as fast as I could,<<<<<<<<<<<< get someone to help you!, like johnny law, [the policea]


you will b better when those days are behind you

when that happens

dont look back

my parents are toxic too ((

I am not them

:stoned:

[zeitgeist]

I am kind of in the exact situation.
My father is a Vietnam Vet and has the exact same attitude about me staying out and getting angry at simple stuff.

You do gotta give him slack becasue he is used to that way of life being in the Army and War. It is VERY hard for them to show their feelings so this is a kind of way for them to express it. Its like the only way they know how.
What I always do now that normally cools stuff off is instead of getting into an argument, say something goofy that will lighten the experience. Being around him I love arguing(lol). I make it into kind of a game where you are arguing but at the same time joking.

Dont go getting all mushy on him either. Hell automatically block anything coming out of your mouth. You also have to show that you are a man are in control of your life. Hell still bitch but as time goes on it will get better

[michaelpeg]

"all by my dad, love him to bits but gets on my tits" funniest thing i have ever read on this site lmfao

[THClord]

My mom is kind of like that, not as bad as your dad though. Looking back, she's been that way since I can remember. In elementary school I was always the best student in my class. I got straight As but kept hearing "you'll fail" all the time. It wasn't everyday or anything like that, but it certainly did affect me. I'm doing really well in college and I still get that "I'm gonna screw up" and "My life is going the wrong way" and everything. All my life I've been trying to disprove her, but now I just don't care and tell her it's none of her business. I'm still doing really well everywhere, but now I am doing it for myself and only myself.

Thinking about all of this had made me realize something. Hearing that I will fail all the time had made me not take risks in life. Since I moved away from home I started taking risks and testing my limits and exploring myself and the world in a new way.

[gardener88]

oh dear my sweet, that is a bit of a pain in the arse dad, does he know you smoke pot? do you work?
you remind me of myself, my mother in law is the same in a way, she is always nagging at me wanting to help me, but i dont need it and wish she would let me get on with it.
maybe if you are a pot smoker, maybe in his day he smoked it and had a bad experiance, and is wanting to tell you but is too scared, as a parent myself, i always want to tell my son what i did or what i do, but i know if i tell him, he may think im a druggy but im not.
i could understand your dad acting this way if you were a major stoner, that sits around all day, with no job living on the doll for the fact that your lazy, then ur dads right for being like this but if your not then tell your dad the sunshine doesnt shine out of there mate! and to leave u alone, explain to him what you want out of life, what you are doing next, i always say with parents honesty is the best policy, if your going out with a few mates, just say, im oing to a friends, round jacks, i will be smoking pot, and will get a taxi back at 11, for example, atleast this way he can see your honest and that you dont give wo flyin fucks about what he thinks, then he cant give the cock and bull story about u lied n stuff,
or just tell him to have a joint and chillout, thats what i would do. x

[Reefer Rogue]

Hope the situation's improved for you Crude, he sounds awful.