I refuse to even have sex unless I love that person or am probably on the way towards it... not for any moral reasons but just because sex without that strong intimate emotional connection is boring to me. If I dont care about the girl, Im not gonna care about the sex.

And youre right, it does make mutual orgasms a bit more challenging. However when you can achieve it, its the most amazing thing Ive ever experienced in my life, and that includes any and all drugs Ive ever done. I think the only thing that will top that feeling is the birth of my first son.