It is amazingly cool when you love the person. The only possible drawback--and it's a small one but this does matter to me--is I so totally get off on seeing and hearing his reaction that for me to be distracted by my own makes me feel like I miss out on the part that really puts me over the edge myself, which is hearing and watching him. My husband's the same way. We like to take turns for this reason. Better ability to watch the show.