This ever happen to you?

[AR15]

Man... i already did awake in the middle of a lovely dream, like you... and i understand perfectly how it feels... its really a heavy coming down... i never did use hard drugs, but can imagine how it may feel like... its sad, sometimes even dispairing...
Well... unfortunately i havent any good advice for you... just a quote... excuse me if it may sound a bit harsh for your situation, but its true:

"Women is much alike bus. Instead running behind one, just wait the next one."

No, not harsh words. But it's not exactly like that. I'm living my life like I should. I'm not stopping things for her. It's just that she's on my mind and I can't get her out. As soon as she's fading away, I end up running into her. And I haven't seen her in a bit, so she was kind of in the back of mind, but I have this dream and then all of a fucking sudden I can't get her off my mind again. In any case, thanks for the response.

Yeah you have an enjoyable dream and all of the sudden...FUCK your back to reality.

But as far as what to do I don't know. Its hard to show a girl how you feel if they have a boyfriend. I say you should try to hangout with her more, maybe you can convince her that you are the one.

But I know how you feel, been there and done that. I have a similar connection with a girl that I want to date soon, she doesn't have a boyfriend like the one you want though.

Anyways, best of luck.

Well I definately want to be around her. It's hard because I don't see her that often, but next time I do, I'm gonna try and break the ice and just spend some time with her even if it is for something like coffee (even though I don't drink coffee, but it's casual).

As for you, thanks, and I hope everything works out between you and her. It's a lot easier to "steal" a girl when her boyfriend's a POS.

I cant give you any advice...it seems like you see where you stand and you know theres nothing you can do...

Thats a tough situation though I feel for you....if you strongly believe that you think this girl may be the one for you....and you strongly believe you could convince her of it....then go for it....take a leap and do something spontaneous(sp)

but...if your doubt is high...it might be better to put it in the past

I'm not sure if I feel she's the "one", but I feel like she's definitely someone who's perfect for me at the moment. I NEVER try to think too far ahead. I don't wonder if I'm going to marry someone or not, it's just how I feel at that stage in my life. I can want to fuck a chick (one time thing), be with a chick (date and see what happens), or really seriously want to be about a chick, which in the latter is where I feel that I could have a long meaningful relationship with her. If we end up feeling like we're perfect for each other and want to be with each other forever, then that's great. But it's not something I think about. I figure I'll know, when I know.

I don't think you meant for me to look at your post that far, sorry I'm not, I'm just kind of rambling off on it. But it's something I feel I'm stuck at. I want to make something of it, but at the same time I'm trying to move on. It's just that she keeps popping up. I don't know.

Thanks.

i may be a big asshole but i dont care
if a woman i like gives me those feelings
than im going to act on them
a lot of good peopel are stuck in bad relationships
its hard to break free sometimes
for me it is a lil difficult to find someone compatible
with my lifestyle so when i have the opportunity
to make myself happy i jump at the chance
two peple who are happy in a relationship will never
give another person that kind of feeling like they want to hook up

when things get to that level they are pretty much over anyways
if i was you id just tell her how you feel
chicks love it when you get raw with emotions

At one end, I hate people like you for what you said right there "im going to act on them", but at the same time I really respect you for doing that, if that makes sense. (Keep in mind, I don't hate you, I just have a strong negative feeling towards people who go after others in relationships [if that makes any sense]) I know I should act on it, but at the same time I'd feel like shit if she did something with me before she left him, or if she didn't leave him in a nice manner or something... I don't know.

I do know what you mean about how it's over already, but how am I supposed to make her see that. I can't. She just has to realize it for herself. I think the big thing here is that I need to let her know how I feel. If I do that, I'll make myself vulnerable, very vulnerable, and I don't know how she's going to take it. So it could hurt, but that's the thrill of it right? I think it's something I need to do, but I need to see her first. I do have her number, but I don't want to come across as random and/or desperate. So I need to see her again, and when I do, I think I'll try to go spend sometime with her even if it's short, just to get that comfortability level again. And after that I'd like to make it a point to see her somewhere, something casual and neutral. Then I'd like to actually tell her how I feel.

I think if I push a little at least it'll show some true interest. Your post gets me ambitious. Thanks.

yeah man I know how you feel.. just last night I was talking to one of my exes.. who I have gone out with twice before now.. and like straight up.. I told her how I felt.. sincere and with emotion.. I made myself vulnerable to her.. she's always been that type to make me feel comfortable around her.. so I just broke free and told her how it is.. and when I did.. she broke down and told me how much she misses me and how she always thinks of me.. and now we're planning on seeing eachother sometime.. I just cant wait to hold her.. ya know? Im sorry if Im getting to dumb here but your post really got to me man. I know how you feel.. like when you dig a chick so much.. it interferes with how you think. when I think of this girl I get heavy feelings in my chest and anxious... I want her.. it's almost as if I urgently need her.. something tells me to go all out.. it's been over a year since the last time I saw her besides myspace.. but definately man.. tell her how you feel.. It may be a bit harder cus she has a boyfriend and you dont wanna seem clingy.. I'd say my situation is easier because I feel comfortable with my ex.. but she also knows I'm not good at saying my true feelings.. cus I feel so vulnerable and when I say how I feel about someone.. I mean it.. but it feels like Im opening myself up to get real hurt.. and if that happens.. again, Idk what I would do man.. Woman.. they dont know what they do to us guys, really we're more then muscle and ego.. when a girls got us... she's got us, it's crazy. Hope everything turns out for the better man. take care

Well, I know what you mean about vulnerability. And I think you're right. I do need to let her know how I feel. I think that's what it really comes down to. I need to see her again. And I need to get this shit off my chest. Thanks.

To everyone that replied, thanks, I really appreciate it, Coelho, YouAintKnow, Spoken Word, Acouwaila, friendowl, rickytikki, and StonedAssasin.

Spoken Word, I feel that way. But I think I need to let her know how I feel. Just let her know, not make a move or anything, just let her know.

ANY FEMALE ADVICE WOULD BE MUCH APRECIATED. I would really like to hear what any female has to say on this. Especially if you have ever felt like what I think that the girl feels like.

In anycase, thanks for all your advice and support, I really do appreciate it.

AR15 Reviewed by AR15 on 07-17-2007. This ever happen to you? Heads up people, do a quick scroll and you'll see this might be a little long. Just a warning. :jointsmile: And sorry mods, I don't know if this should be here or in the experiences forum, but I just stuck it here, feel free to move. So there's this girl that I know. I get along really well with her. I always felt comfortable around her and talk came very easy as if we had known each other since we were kids. I feel like she feels the same way. She's very attractive and I could easily Rating: 5