Ok.....There seems to be some sort unwritten set of rules going on here that are getting in your way.

First.....what are going to say to her when you "talk"? I want a relationship or else? State your intentions? I don't care if you have a kid? Wow....that one ought to bowl her right over.....

Why does there have to be this or that intent for you guys to talk?

If she is playing games with you the you'll find out soon enough. That's really the only way to know......you get to know people. That's what creating relationships is all about.

Don't let your fear get the best of you. I can definitely say from personal experience that it can take over if you let it.......don't let it.

good luck to you....

Ps...Rebgirl's advice was very good....be honest. It works.