I JUST GOT SEMI-DUMPED:( opionions please asap

[Mike23artist]

I met this girl a few weeks ago and weve talked on the phone yadadada a few times she has a 4 year old son shes 22 im 24 and we both said we find eacother cute and so i thought maybe we could date i brought her flowers to her work last night and she hugged me and shit then tonight i was talking to her on im and she said she aint looking for a relationship now and just wants to be friendsso i said i wouldnt rush her and we could start out as friends and she said ok and i agreed so i dunno know what to do ive been single for a year and over a half and shes the first girl ive asked out in a long ass time and i like this girl im stuck dammitso shes supposed to call me tommorrow and "talk' so what should i tell her ladys????please i need help

Mike23artist Reviewed by Mike23artist on 07-16-2007. I JUST GOT SEMI-DUMPED:( opionions please asap I met this girl a few weeks ago and weve talked on the phone yadadada a few times she has a 4 year old son shes 22 im 24 and we both said we find eacother cute and so i thought maybe we could date i brought her flowers to her work last night and she hugged me and shit then tonight i was talking to her on im and she said she aint looking for a relationship now and just wants to be friends:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(so i said i wouldnt rush her and we could start out as friends and she said ok and i Rating: 5

[Breukelen advocaat]

I met this girl a few weeks ago and weve talked on the phone yadadada a few times she has a 4 year old son shes 22 im 24 and we both said we find eacother cute and so i thought maybe we could date i brought her flowers to her work last night and she hugged me and shit then tonight i was talking to her on im and she said she aint looking for a relationship now and just wants to be friendsso i said i wouldnt rush her and we could start out as friends and she said ok and i agreed so i dunno know what to do ive been single for a year and over a half and shes the first girl ive asked out in a long ass time and i like this girl im stuck dammitso shes supposed to call me tommorrow and "talk' so what should i tell her ladys????please i need help

This probably belongs in the Sexuality and Relationships forum.

I think she's interested. Just go along with it, she's sounds like a very nice woman.

You have to realize that kid is important to her, and the father may be around, so she's being careful.

When I was single, dating women with kids, or ones that wanted them, never worked out for me.

[rebgirl420]

Just tell her what your thinking. Be honest. COMPLETELY honest.

[slipknotpsycho]

simple enough.... just ask her if she's wanting a relationship in the future possibly you.... or if she's not really looking for any relationship anytime soon...

can't push her, if she don't want one, you can't make her want one.... and you really don't... if you just pushed her into a relationship it'd be pure shit and hell....

give it time.... if you like this girl as much as you say you do, you'll have no problem waiting and taking it slow.... get to know each other a bit more first... start with dinners... going out as just friends... don't push relationship status or anything, just basicly go out as you'd take one of your guy friends out...

[Mike23artist]

Her babys daddy is a loser who hasnt even seen the kid and she dont know where he is and i told her i like kids and i like her but i just guess i gotta do what i gotta do which is wait my first crush was a amanda in hs and it scarred me for life i just feel like shit now and i cant smoke weed cause im on probationgo beer

[rebgirl420]

Well do you have a good paying job, insurance, and are you reliable? I mean she does have a child to think about. She just cant spring into a relationship all willy nilly.

[chaliceburn]

I'm no expert, but to me there's no official relationship until sex happens. Before that, she's just... some chick you know, regardless of what you would like to believe, especially since you just met her.

Detach yourself, look at this from a different angle. Don't let your desire to get laid/in a relationship ASAP make you stupid, as so often is the case. What's the hurry? Do you honestly think because you waited a year and a half, and she stumbled along (with her baggage), that makes her miss right? Hardly. Plus, she smells your desperation. It reeks.

ps - this does probably have a more appropriate forum.

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[Mike23artist]

i work as a painter and i make 15 an hour under the table full time and im in college i have one year left till i get my graphic artist degree and im a very good artist i can draw anything but u know what there are plenty of girls out there and i can meet one sometime i dont care i just really like amanda i dont care if she has a kid i will take care of them im 24 dammit im not 16 with my camaro anymore i want something legit ya dig?

[rebgirl420]

Age has nothing to do with being able to take care of a kid. There are 40 year olds who arent responsible enough for that. And if you want something legit then find another girl and date her for a few years and get married and have kids of your own.

[Weedhound]

Ok.....There seems to be some sort unwritten set of rules going on here that are getting in your way.

First.....what are going to say to her when you "talk"? I want a relationship or else? State your intentions? I don't care if you have a kid? Wow....that one ought to bowl her right over.....

Why does there have to be this or that intent for you guys to talk?

If she is playing games with you the you'll find out soon enough. That's really the only way to know......you get to know people. That's what creating relationships is all about.

Don't let your fear get the best of you. I can definitely say from personal experience that it can take over if you let it.......don't let it.

good luck to you....

Ps...Rebgirl's advice was very good....be honest. It works.