Quote Originally Posted by B.Basher
Yo to all.

The only problem is she likes to talk about the future a lot, in particular our future. It's not really serious when she does, just a jokey, playful comment about how she can't wait to marry me, or can't wait to move into a house and have a bagillion babies. Jokey shit like that. The problem with it is I don't like to think too far ahead, particularly at this time in my life when i'm scared to death of entering the real world and trying to find a career in music (one of the hardest careers to establish). Sometimes when she makes a joke or starts to talk about the future sentimentally, I visibly tense up, of which she translates negatively as a relationship thing.

The first thing I would wonder about is whether she wants me for myself, or as the provider for a tribe of children. Do you want all those kids? What would she do if you told her you didn't want any at all? You know, it's extremely expensive and time consuming to have a bunch of kids, which would seriously affect your music, or whatever you're going to do with your life.

Many women are more "in love" with reproducing than the men they have relationships with.

I didn't have kids and it was the best thing I ever did. You never hear older people say "Gee, I wish I'd had a dozen kids". Those that did (have numerous children) are usually so burned out by the time they reach middle-age that they don't even want to think about what life would have been like if they hadn't.