honestly, the more you tell us, the worse it gets.... i think you should honestly really sit down and think long and hard about this... from my point of view, this marriage isn't heading in a very good direction.... it actually kinda seems to be derailing...

from what i gather, basicly she's expecting you to be everything she wants you to be, and her compromising is out of the question...

not say tha'ts right, that just SEEMS like the way this is heading.... neither of yal really seem to be open and truthful, which makes it even worse... since the sole major characteristic of any marriage to succeed is openess and honesty... if you don't have that, you don't really have a marriage... you just have a documented higher priority girlfriend/boyfriend situation...

forgetting yal aren't even on the same page on like.... anything, if this marriage is to work, both of you are going to have to become very up front, and very honest and open and clear about what you think/feel. at this point, that's about the only hope you have at this point.

as for the love... love is one thing, but is she the one? i 'loved' quite a few girls before i met my wife, who is my one... i thought i'd love them forever too and i couldn't of ever imagined being without them at the time... but i'm not now.. .and i'm also happy now...

is she the one? you shoudln't even have to think to answer.... when you meet the one, you know they're the one, you can say with 100% conviction that they are the one without even the slightest pause or doubt...

can you say that about your current wife?