My wife wants to stop oral sex

[jygf77]

She's sort of religiously conservative or whatever. She said she thinks it might be "unhealthy" (like spiritually/emotionally). I never asked for it often... maybe once or twice a month... even though I'd like it more. And I go down on her just as much as she does me. But she said she doesn't want me going down on her any more, and wants to "take a break" from going down on me, and "maybe" well do it again in the future.

This has caught me way off guard. I told her okay since I don't want to force any sort of sex on anyone... and knowing she hates it will spoil it for me anyway. But inside I want to fucking explode. I don't know what to do.

jygf77 Reviewed by jygf77 on 07-12-2007. My wife wants to stop oral sex She's sort of religiously conservative or whatever. She said she thinks it might be "unhealthy" (like spiritually/emotionally). I never asked for it often... maybe once or twice a month... even though I'd like it more. And I go down on her just as much as she does me. But she said she doesn't want me going down on her any more, and wants to "take a break" from going down on me, and "maybe" well do it again in the future. This has caught me way off guard. I told her okay since I don't Rating: 5

[cannabis campbell]

Woah thats pretty serious, thats how some marriages break up, lack of sex (ever seen american beauty!?), but you obviously need to have a serious chat with her about it, How old are you both and how long have you been married, its opinion really and i think in a marriage you "need" sex because you need that physical attraction to stay there you cant ever let that die..

Maybe its something you've been doing, maybe you need to spice things up?? tell me more, do you think its something that you've done thats made her feel this way?

[rebgirl420]

Well, if you cant have an open sexual relationship where both of you is happy then id say you should get a divorce. That is such crap. Sex is the backbone of a relationship. Actually Playboy actually had a letter like this a while back from the Playboy Advisor, your wife is full of crap w/ her religious views. Sex is natural and anything but "unhealthy". Men and women have natural urges that need to be met. Fine, if YOU can live your life with a shitty unfullfilling sex life fine, but I wouldnt call that living at all.

[qdavid]

I don't know what to say. Only that pretty much the same thing happened to me. But she still gave me of blow jobs but she wouldn't let me eat pussy for three years before she died last year. I think other women do that sort of thing too. With us, communication was always a problem cause she was Korean and I never really found out what the problem was. Off the top of my head, it sounds like she should go talk to someone, but I don't know who.

[friendowl]

hahaha
damn that sucks [no pun intended]
i used to be with a woman who didnt like to give head
but she was real real good in bed ...she was a bad one
but no head

after some time your body just wants to be served

you need to find a fat broad who is lonely
take her to the drive thru and pinch her boobs [not to hard]
she will fall on your cock face first within seconds

[az666]

Isn't "love" the back bone of a relationship?
Sex is not the main concern....although physical contact is very important. You shouldn't base your relationship on getting your cock sucked.

hahahaha Friendowl you know how to get your end away

[birdgirl73]

That's a tough one, jygf77. I definitely don't think a divorce is in order because of that alone--unless, of course, this is just a symptom of a much larger problem between the two of y'all. Something about the fact that she's saying she doesn't want oral anymore either and wants a break in both directions sends up red flags that she's unhappy with some aspect of herself, with her sexuality or with the physical intimacy between you two and is using the "spiritually/emotionally unhealthy" reason as an excuse.

Something's obviously wrong that she could use some help with. Has y'all's sex life been good until now? Is she basically proposing that your sex life now simply be limited to intercourse alone? Also, do you know if she's ever been the victim of any type of abuse or assault? I may anger some of our arch-religious members here, and I apologize in advance if I do, but I fervently believe that oppressive religious programming about right and wrong/good and evil is in itself a form of abuse; it's programming that later results in physical and mental uptightness every bit as much as sexual assault can.

If getting head is real, real important to you, and I've never yet been acquainted with a guy for whom it wasn't, tell her that. Ask if she might be willling to work together with a counselor about the sex issues. An astute counselor, particularly one who's not affiliated with a religious institution, could help pin down what's really up with her in just a few sessions.

I tend to agree with az666 that you shouldn't base your relationship entirely on getting oral sex. But I strongly believe that in a sexually healthy marriage, wives and husbands who love each other need to make every effort to accommodate their partners, even when it shakes the boundaries of their comfort zone. I truly can't imagine my sex life with my husband without that particular activity. It's one of the best ways I know of to let him know I love him--and to keep him happy and satisfied with me.

[slipknotpsycho]

negotiate... beisdes oral sex what's something she always wants you to do, that you'd really rather not, but do it anyways?

not saying it's the best course of action, but that's what i'd do... you don't wanna do this for me, and i don't wanna do this for you... settled.

it is a tough one tho... i know how much i love it... and to be told never again (maybe again in the future is basicly a never again.. lol, she only said that so if you bring it up later she can say "i never said never again, i said maybe in the future") well... it's not exactly right to force it.. and i can definately understand it'd kill it anyways if you knew she didn't want to... i could imagine it'd be similar to getting a hand job while she's looking at a cosmo or something...

[qdavid]

you need to find a fat broad who is lonely
take her to the drive thru and pinch her boobs [not to hard]
she will fall on your cock face first within seconds

bwahahahahahahahahahahahaha!

[Anubis10012007]

Seems like a sign of divorce. It usually starts with something like this. Than she'll be going out more and more.

However, things tend to work themselves out naturally.

Stay single!