She didn't have to tell you, as someone else has said! But you know her better than us. I'd want a serious chat about the relationship, then I'd decide whether the action I'd be thinking was correct. It's likely I'd put her ass out on the kerb... But there could be some genuine reason *cough* like mind control that was responsible. It's up to you and your missus to figure out where you are heading.. Good luck puppy