Hard choice.. need advice

[KingsBlend420]

Granny makes a good point, but I seriously can't see how if someone "loves" you, how they can go off and have sex with someone else. I would honestly either totally dump her, or maybe take a break and see if she really loves you. I feel your pain man, hang in there. Also like miss high times said, your girlfriend doesn't make you who you are.:thumbsup:

[Skink]

There is no sugar coating what happen,,,she opened her legs for someone else... if you were married and had kids this wood be a tough decision... She is searching for someone better than you and she hasn't found it yet...

[home.grower]

She didn't have to tell you, as someone else has said! But you know her better than us. I'd want a serious chat about the relationship, then I'd decide whether the action I'd be thinking was correct. It's likely I'd put her ass out on the kerb... But there could be some genuine reason *cough* like mind control that was responsible. It's up to you and your missus to figure out where you are heading.. Good luck puppy

[crudemood]

I think you two definately need some time apart. Then during that time you can think about if you miss her or not, she can do the same thing and maybe not have sex this time.. I believe if two people really love each other they're willing to work things out and it will work out. As for second chances well, I usually do give those but after the second chance, I'm done.. I don't believe in making this kind of 'mistake' twice.

[Trip06]

dude If I were you I wouldnt look her in the eyes and Id escourt her ass to the door probly with a kick in the ass. Dogs are dogs and If she really loved you she would of just used her fingers.

[cannabis=freedom]

Shit happens, and she's sorry.

Try and find it in your heart to forgive her. She sounds like a catch.

You guys are all talking shit, but you don't know her...it's very easy to flex your muscles and say she'd be out on her ass, but she sounds amazing. There are too few of those.

[switch226]

Dude take it from me I've been in relationships like this before. 1. she is probably feeling a little vulnerable if that guy was able to take advantage of her seven times in eight weeks. 2. She is probably "VERY" insecure if she has to make herself feel better by being with other guy/s on top of being with you. And regardless of what her "BFF" thinks... she is not that girl and is not inside her head to tell you exactly what she is thinking or feeling. I'll put it to you this way...

You can spend a long time getting hurt in small doses... crying... feeling sorry for yourself... having anxiety that she will do it again... and allow her to say oops I am sorry for having sex seven times with a foreign guy. Or.... you can break it off, have an immediate feeling of pain... and then have a recovery time where you chill with your friends and smoke some J. Honestly man I'd take the second choice and start feeling happy again man. Just ask yourself when was the last time I really felt good about the whole thing and then figure out what it is that will make you happy. Good luck bud.

[hateyoul3itch]

dude..you have to dump her
this shit happened to me too a while ago my girl cheated on me I know the feeling your talking about bro its horrible i feel your pain, but believe me your relationships just gonna keep gettin worse and worse if she knows she can get away with a lot with you. I still regret not dumping mine

[420marijuana420]

Of course he best friend is going to defend her. If you don't like being the other guy (I'm assuming that's the case) then dump her. If she did it once you could maybe get over it and move on. But at seven times she's likely to do it again. Ando yeah it's gonna suck to dump her. But it's going to be easier now then later. Every day it's going to just get harder because you'll just get deeper and deeper into the relationship which means that each day that passes will be the best day to do it. And if its hard now think how hard it'll be later.

[BlAzInIt4:20]

I think you two definately need some time apart. Then during that time you can think about if you miss her or not, she can do the same thing and maybe not have sex this time.. I believe if two people really love each other they're willing to work things out and it will work out. As for second chances well, I usually do give those but after the second chance, I'm done.. I don't believe in making this kind of 'mistake' twice.

i just came out of a three year relationship, verbal abusive, very toxic for both of us. sometimes physical, just out of pure anger for each other. We had this love hate relationship, it wasn't always like this until i found out she WAS cheating on me for along time.... i tried to forgive and forget... but i just couldn't.. i was so guilty in my own ways of lying to her i just couldn't give it up... i said we need time apart and thats what were doing like a couple years if were ment to be with each other we will be together again...


I say you need to think about what you want, what you need. if you think theirs no other options. 7 times is way excessive. thats more then he just seduced me. thats a defiant willing partner. Remember you need to take care of your heart most of all, your not the one who fucked up, so dont blame yourself for her mistakes, she is pulling a game for you to forgive her.. But if you really think she deserves another chance then do it dude.. don't give up on true love.. its hard to find..