Hypothetical Question

[Gandalf_The_Grey]

I'm 22, but never had any kind of relationship, not even been kissed. As such, I don't really know anything about anything when it comes to initiating an intimate relationship, but I feel I'm ready now that I've mostly overcome my social anxiety.



So, lets say I'm with the girl of my dreams. There's a mutual attraction between us, and it finally comes to that moment for the first kiss. How does that moment happen, what should I do to make it happen? Do I ask, do I just wait for us to both move into it, or do I just suddenly kiss her at the right moment? And once that first kiss happens, where do I go from there?

I know this sounds like really basic stuff that anybody should understand, but I have a sort of autistic way of understanding socializing and I don't have that instinct other guys seem to, that instinct that tells you how to get things rolling romantically.

Gandalf_The_Grey Reviewed by Gandalf_The_Grey on 07-09-2007. Hypothetical Question I'm 22, but never had any kind of relationship, not even been kissed. As such, I don't really know anything about anything when it comes to initiating an intimate relationship, but I feel I'm ready now that I've mostly overcome my social anxiety. So, lets say I'm with the girl of my dreams. There's a mutual attraction between us, and it finally comes to that moment for the first kiss. How does that moment happen, what should I do to make it happen? Do I ask, do I just wait for us to Rating: 5

[Tainted Glory]

A kiss goodnight is expected after a successful date. Don't put any pressure on yourself. Just relax and go for it.

[Gandalf_The_Grey]

A kiss goodnight is expected after a successful date. Don't put any pressure on yourself. Just relax and go for it.

Oh, I don't think it's going to happen on a formal date, I actually have a friend of a couple years in mind.

[powair]

If she's not expecting it, but it feels right to you, then I would say just go for it and kiss her and see what her reaction is. But if you're both, say, sitting close to each other, having a personal conversation and you're both looking in each other's eyes, then she'll probably lean in to kiss you if you just lean towards her too.

And after that has been initiated, then you really just need to go with the flow, try to feel what she's doing and what she wants, and also what you want.

[Tainted Glory]

Well definetly don't ask to kiss her. Its a mood killer. Best bet is to initiate the kiss and see how she responds. If she cowers in fear and begins to howl like a Mongolian, then odds are you're SOL. If she returns the motion, or sometimes remains still, you're golden. Just don't go in tongue-blazing, gripping the back of her head and whatnot.

If the initial kiss goes smoothly use your instincts to see what comes next. It might lead to a hookup or it might lead to nothing. Be prepared for either.

[Quincyboy]

be a man and take whats yours


no im just kidding, you'll know when the moments right, thats how it was with me i just knew

[beachguy in thongs]

When you're feeling good, step towards her, and see if she shies away. If she shies away, look at her face. Maybe, that will tell you what she wants and when.

[420MissHighTimes420]

Just go for it! I love when a guy is a bit arrgesive and doesn't mind making the first move. If she isn't into it and just sees you as a friend so what! You should still be proud you went for that first kiss. Also you should take this girl you have in mind out for a nice dinner, to not just randomly put moves on her, let her know your interested. Although a random kiss is sexy and fun

[Breukelen advocaat]

I'm good at it, or so I've been told, but it took years of trial and error for me to perfect it. Once you can do it well,with feeling, getting to third base is usually guaranteed. Start out with hand-holding, and carsses, and maybe a peck on the cheek. Women like good kissers. They also like romance. Don't discount the value of formal dates.

[az666]

You could play spin the bottle, just the 2 of you!
lol no don't do that.

The advice given was really good!