Quote Originally Posted by Nailhead
(sorry, my previous post was a bit premature, but I'll leave it because I think I had some decent advice for others in similar situations)



You don't need to explain anything to him, if you are unhappy in the relationship all you gotta say is you are unhappy and its over. You could bring up some of that other stuff you didn't like, but don't let that phone call turn into a 3 hour debate over who was worst in the relationship, because he will most likely try to expose your own dirt and make you feel bad...which is why I would just say keep it simple and don't get into details.

I also don't see a problem with breaking up over the phone, I've had friends that found out their girl was cheating on them while fighting in a fucking war in Iraq, so to me a phone call doesn't seem that bad at all compared to the hell they went through. Personally, I would go for in person in a public place like a coffee shop, but just make sure you drive in separate cars if you do that

Also, stop being so hard on yourself, people cheat all the time and even though some people will try to make you feel like you are satan incarnate, most people have done it from time to time so don't be so down on yourself, just be smarter next time and don't put yourself in a position where you will cheat, IE stay single and just date around! My advice is to date as often as you can and don't let things get serious, just have fun and stay protected. Take some courses in Leykis 101 and you will be on the road to a much happier lifestyle

I think you just helped me with my problem.. thnx... Good advice by the way.. I was going to start a thread but no need now.

dont beat urself up over this... it happens.. Don't worry their is alot of people in this world :-). And cheating when you have already lost all concept of your boyfriend, and your completely unhappy with him and don't look at him the same, i wouldn't call it cheating...