Your stance on cheating ...

[Nailhead]

I always said that I would never cheat on someone because I thought that it meant you didn't have strong feelings for them, or you were lacking something in the realtionship.

I was upset because my bf never called to see if I was ok or anything

You are correct, cheating is the result of when you are lacking something from your current relationship as you have just said yourself.

so we were just drinking and one thing led to another and we fucked.

Nothing "leads to another" like that, I have never been so drunk, and then all of a sudden found myself sucking off one of my guy friends, so stop using the "we were drinking" excuse! Just admit it, you wanted to bang, sugar coating it with a lie is fine with your friends, but this is the internet, be honest!

Here is my take on cheating, it is okay if you don't care about your current relationship. Most young people are in relationships because they are insecure to be single, so therefor when the temptation comes to cheat they almost always take it. That doesn't mean you don't care for you're boyfriend, it just means you are too young for a serious relationship. This is why in a perfect world people would stay single until they are 24 or older, and up until then have as much fun as you want. There is no reason you need to pretend to be in a serious relationship before that time, because nobody is mature enough to really be in a serious relationship. And even if you are mature enough, it isn't healthy because later in life you might wonder what you missed out on...and then end up being the 30 year old that bangs the neighbor while your hubby is on a fishing trip.

You can try to justify cheating all you want, but the reality is that if you told your b/f it would probably crush him. If you told him the same lie you tell yourself to justify cheating, would he would feel just as okay about it as you do? If he doesn't care about you fucking other guys then there really is no problem with cheating, but then it wouldn't be cheating because you would be honest, but you see, if you aren't being honest, then you don't have a solid relationship, and if you don't have a solid relationship, maybe you should just be single?