*this may seem harsh, but please just read it all the way through first, i'm just letting you know my view on things, and if anything i say seems out of line (because i don't personally know you, the boyfriend, the guy you cheated on him with, or the situation), then i apologize.*

yes, i have broken up with someone over the phone before, but i feel like it's a cowardly thing to do. especially if you're going to tell him that you had sex with someone else. whether or not you guys were really serious, that will be a slap in the face to him. to hear that sort of information over the phone, and then for you to break up with him (again, i don't know if you're going to tell him about the guy you had sex with, or the situation - the drinking - or anything like that), but regardless of whether or not you are going to tell him that, no one wants to be broken up with over the phone. like i said, i believe that to be cowardly. i'm the same way, i hate hurting people and especially seeing their faces when it happens, but the most responsible and mature thing to do, to me, is to break up with him in person.

to answer the original "whats your stance on cheating", for the thread, cheating is never ok. no matter what. it shows that you don't have respect for the person that you are in a relationship with. even a drunken fuck shows that. because you didnt care enough about the person you were in a relationship to say "woah now, this isn't a good idea." i know that you were drunk, but honestly, you shouldn't have let yourself even be in that situation if you knew it was a possibility (the cheating, not the drinking, although that did contribute, so it probably was a bad idea, if you see it that way). to me, cheating is never ok. ever. it shows a tremendous amount of disrespect for the person you are actually in a relationship with. it shows that you don't really care about them, their feelings, what they think. and you can backtrack and say that you really do, but honestly, would you have let yourself get that drunk and fuck someone else if you really cared? you have to think about it that way. i'm not trying to sound harsh or anything at all, but most of the relationships i've been in, i've been cheated on. and that's fucking painful as hell, regardless of whether or not it's a serious relationship. i think that it shows that you're obviously not important enough to that person, that you're not good enough for them - that they're not satisfied with just you. at least that's the way i felt about it when it happened to me on multiple occasions. i believe that cheating is never right, and if you have the desire to be with someone else, then break it off with your standing relationship first, out of respect for the person that you are in a relationship with. no one likes to be cheated on. it fucking hurts the only silver lining i can see from myself being cheated on so many times is that i have never cheated on anyone and i will never cheat on anyone. ever. because i've been hurt too many times because of it, and i don't want to inflict the same pain on someone else. i know how it feels, and damn it's hard.

but please, even though it's not too serious of a relationship, don't break up with him over the phone. i just don't think it's the right way to go about things - you've already probably hurt him enough by cheating on him (if you're going to tell him about it)

not trying to sound preachy or bitchy, or tell you what to do, just giving you my opinion that i feel is somewhat valuable, seeing as that i've been cheated on numerous times (i feel like i've been cheated on so much because i'm such a passive person, give people way more chances than they deserve....but i like to try and see the good in people, and think that maybe things will change. but to me, once a cheater, always a cheater - who's to say it won't happen again?) even with future relationships, if they asked if you've ever cheated on someone, and you tell them that you have, they're probably going to be like "ehhhh...will she cheat on me?" it could cause a certain amount of distrust in whatever future relationships you have, serious or not. again, i'm not trying to pass judgement on you, i'm just telling you how i see things, in hopes of helping you out

i hope that everything gets worked out for you, and you don't have to go through too much heartache