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    Your stance on cheating ...

    I have very mixed feelings on wheather or not cheating is okay. I feel like it is ok if there are no feelings involved with it, and that as long as at the end of the day you still go back to the person you are cheating on.
    I always said that I would never cheat on someone because I thought that it meant you didn't have strong feelings for them, or you were lacking something in the realtionship.
    But then this weekend I cheated. On friday my boyfriend dropped me off at a train station where I missed my train. Earlier that day my friend who I havent seen in ahwile called me n was like come down town. So since I already was I called n asked if I could sleep over. He said it was fine and met me there. I was upset because my bf never called to see if I was ok or anything, just a nice young girl in a train station in the city w. a large amount of homeless crack heads at 12 30 at night, really safe right? so we were just drinking and one thing led to another and we fucked.
    I feel terrible but at the same time it was just one night where I got caught up in the moment.
    Should I tell him? I have no feelings for this guy ... I'm really confused.

    edit: I love that I can tell everyone on here, and not my friends. This site is so helpful, w. out it things would eat me alive.
    420MissHighTimes420 Reviewed by 420MissHighTimes420 on . Your stance on cheating ... I have very mixed feelings on wheather or not cheating is okay. I feel like it is ok if there are no feelings involved with it, and that as long as at the end of the day you still go back to the person you are cheating on. I always said that I would never cheat on someone because I thought that it meant you didn't have strong feelings for them, or you were lacking something in the realtionship. But then this weekend I cheated. On friday my boyfriend dropped me off at a train station where I Rating: 5

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    #2
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    Your stance on cheating ...

    ok well i feel stupid after thinking that I would think it's ok. so hes gone now, far away and Im aware that he is most likely getting with other girls, I dont know if he is 100% or not, but Im not stupid and I know hes 5 hours away, getting wasted around a bunch of girls who are also wasted, and either single or away from there boyfriends. we aren't technically together, and let me tell you its so painful. the thought of him being with another girl is HORRIBLE. I thought it wouldnt bother me if it didn't mean anything but it does. i look at his facebook (As lame as it sounds) and see all these girls commenting him about funny shit and there little jokes and it made me want to crawl up and die. i hate that he might be with someone who is prettier, has a better body, better in bed, anythign it hurts. i hate it.
    I know when i cheated on him it was wrong, but now I see how bad it can really hurt. its killing me

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    #3
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    Your stance on cheating ...

    Eh, get over it, 420miss...

    Yeah, it doesn't matter whether she's prettier, or whatever her appearance might be.

    At least he's starting out with someone he can trust, and not just holding a sword that cut him before.

    Don't worry, sometimes wisdom catches up with years. But sometimes it never can when you have so much of a head start on it.

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    #4
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    Your stance on cheating ...

    cheating is a messy subject, i cheated loads on a girl that i loved more than anything. it wasn't like i went out my way to meet girls, but what ive come to realise since, was that when i was in a relationship with her i was a lot more laid back and never got anxious about talking to girls cus i knew i had a wikid girl at home. so when girls approached me i would just be chatty and have a laugh. that combined with alchol made me make some unwise descisions.

    i was always honest though, about the girls i slept with. because i thought she deserved the truth and because i wanted her for once to maybe get a bit jealous and a bit mad, sorta test the boundries of our relationship. but it never happened. i think thats what i was craving more than anything a bit of reassurance she actually wanted me and that i wasn't just there for comfort.

    anyway it swung back around cus she cheated on me with my best mate, this guy was like the brother i never had. it hurt so much that she could have just gone to any bar any club and picked out a guy, she was gergous and wikid to talk to.

    after that things were never that same. it made me really really angry and i couldnt get over it. i eventually left her because it was ruining me more than anything else. but wheni told her the truth she threw it all back in my face saying all the times i had cheated she was at least allowed to cheat.

    this really well made things apparent, becuase to forgive is to forget. and well i think she was more anoid that she hadn't left with the moral high ground as it were. but in hindsight i realise that maybe our realtionship wasnt as great as i thought and i now know when i meet a girl i really want to be with, like the girl im seeing at the moment. that i would never ever cheat.

    i think it takes a real awesome person to be able to forgive properly. but being honest is a risk as they might not be that person and so they have every right to leave. but all of life is a learning curve and its just something you have to learn yourself.

    anyway theres my 2 cents

    peace

    snow

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    #5
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    Your stance on cheating ...

    Quote Originally Posted by 420MissHighTimes420
    I always said that I would never cheat on someone because I thought that it meant you didn't have strong feelings for them, or you were lacking something in the realtionship...

    But then this weekend I cheated... Earlier that day my friend who I havent seen in ahwile called me n was like come down town. So since I already was I called n asked if I could sleep over... so we were just drinking and one thing led to another and we fucked...

    I feel terrible but at the same time it was just one night where I got caught up in the moment.
    Deleted. Seems the situation was resolved.

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    #6
    Senior Member

    Your stance on cheating ...

    Right, you were drinking. Thats a perfect excuse. I bet you were totally clueless as to what drinking would lead to. I am dissapointed. He may be immature, but he deserves better than someone who will make up lame excuses as to why it was okay to cheat.
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    #7
    Senior Member

    Your stance on cheating ...

    Quote Originally Posted by GraziLovesMary
    Hmm I guess since everybody else is, Ill throw my two cents in there seeing as how Im still awake at 6AM..

    Coming from somebody that has been cheated on after 4 years of dedication by the person I knew I was going to marry.. Im against it. In fact, thats the only thing that I truly ask of any girlfriend: be faithful, because I sure as fuck will be. If I am going to be in a relationship it is because I seriously care for that person and either am in love with them, or want to fall in love with them. Otherwise it is a waste of time. If I just want some sex, I can go out and pick up any number of girls at any given time, but thats not what interests me personally.

    I know Im the minority, but sex is meaningless to me unless I have a serious sense of emotional attachment with that other person. In fact, the only times Ive had sex with somebody I wasnt in love with, was my female friends aunt(I was more than just high and drunk.. its a long story, but I didnt really even come to until the sun was coming up and I realized I had been fucking this woman for 8 hours in the hot tub), and the threesomes I had with my ex and her best friend.

    If Im dating somebody, and I have such a small amount of respect for them that I am harboring thoughts of cheating on them, then I obviously dont love them anymore and I would need to break up with them anyways. I would want that same amount of decency. My ex girlfriend has sentenced another man to death sometime in the very distant future because shes a dirty whore of a cheater. I dunno, its not just the ultimate sign of disrespect.. its bad karma too. She is dead to me. If she were to die tomorrow I would be neither happy nor sad. It would make no difference because in my mind and heart she is already dead. He, however, is a much different story.

    Anyway, thats my stance.
    I have never met anyone who shared the same stance as I do. No wonder I thought you were cool from the start.

    As for me, my ex-wife cheated on me hardcore, I don't even want to talk about it. I'll never cheat on anyone, ever. I'll never cause that pain to another person.

    However it's happens, and while one maybe the devil reincarnate to your former significant other, everyone sins once in a while. Simply have to learn from your mistakes and move on.

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    #8
    Senior Member

    Your stance on cheating ...

    You mean cheating within the context of a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship and not in marriage, right? Please tell me that's what you mean.

    Frankly, if people are in a committed relationship, whether it's girlfriend-boyfriend or engaged or married couples, they ought not to cheat. If they want to be with other people, they need to do the right thing by their partner/spouse and get out of the previous relationship first. Cheating is hurtful and destructive and also dangerous from a disease standpoint.

    Cheating is bad mojo. In relationships. In school. On taxes. Everyplace I can think of!
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    #9
    Senior Member

    Your stance on cheating ...

    To me, it's never ok, not in any way shape or form. I broke up with my first gf of two years because she kissed someone. To me, it's the ultimate slap in the face and it's inexcusable. I still loved her at the time but I couldn't trust her, and she knew how strongly I feel about that sort of thing.

    And I honestly think you should tell your boyfriend, because imagine if he cheated on you and didn't tell you, it wouldn't be fair.

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    #10
    Senior Member

    Your stance on cheating ...

    Its not cheating if you share. My GF and I live an "alternate" lifestyle. Whe have been swingers for several years, My first wife an I were also into swinging. Basicaly its anything goes as long as we are both there and all agree.
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