OK, I'm speaking very candidly here, but I'm not happy for her. The truth is I'm even sadder for those babies. For your sister to bring two little darling, beautiful infants into this world in such close succession when she's only 23, has no resident husband there to be a father to them, and cannot afford to provide for them breaks my heart. What hope is there for those babies' lives? For their futures and educations? For their idea of a family? Or their being raised by two involved, in-residence parents?

I know it kills you, Dro, that it's not you. It kills me, too. You are in so much better a position to bring children into this world. I hope to goodness your sister will get her tubes tied.

Above all, my fondest wish is that this much hoped-for dream will come true for you any day now. It isn't fair. Glad you expressed what you were feeling! I hope my candor doesn't offend anyone. Babies need fathers at home. And stability.