Quote Originally Posted by birdgirl73
OK, I'm speaking very candidly here, but I'm not happy for her. The truth is I'm even sadder for those babies. For your sister to bring two little darling, beautiful infants into this world in such close succession when she's only 23, has no resident husband there to be a father to them, and cannot afford to provide for them breaks my heart. What hope is there for those babies' lives? For their futures and educations? For their idea of a family? Or their being raised by two involved, in-residence parents?

I know it kills you, Dro, that it's not you. It kills me, too. You are in so much better a position to bring children into this world. I hope to goodness your sister will get her tubes tied.

Above all, my fondest wish is that this much hoped-for dream will come true for you any day now. It isn't fair. Glad you expressed what you were feeling! I hope my candor doesn't offend anyone. Babies need fathers at home. And stability.
I totally agree with you BG. One thing she is only 20. I'm the oldest out of all my siblings (22). The daddy is a great dad though. Even though he doesn't live there they each have him about half of the week, he is never in need of anything. Always has pampers and milk. But paying bills, being 20, now gonna be 2 kids barely a year apart, and working in a fast food place with low wages will take a toll on anyone.

This August 16 we will celebrate our 4 year wedding anniversary. We have been together for a total of 5 years and trying for 3 with no luck. It can be very frustrating. I'm so ready for a child. We have a great cash flow coming in and he has held his job for 4 years permanent and one year as a temp. For a total of 5 years. My car is going to be paid off ion August and our next step is buying a house. I'm ready to have a family. It just seems like one of those impossible dreams sometimes.