personality is what matters. my mom and dad were only married for a few years when my mom got extremely ill and gained a lot of weight. when my mom was married, she weighed 125 lbs. i won't say how much she weighs now, but it's substantially more than that. she gained the weight because of her illnesses - she is unable to really exercise because of the exhaustion it causes her - sometimes she gets so exhausted from menial tasks that she will sleep for several days, and she went through hell and back, and she still has the illnesses. my dad is still with my mom because he loves her because of who she is. i really can't say that i remember when my mom was thin, because i really was only a couple of years old. but my dad staying with my mom and helping her through these extremely tough times really helped to show me just how much personality means. but weight really never has been too much of a factor for me - i've dated extremely skinny guys, chubby guys, and overweight guys. looks are always a nice bonus, but what i focus on is personality, and how i am treated in a relationship. so, to me, nice guys are what i look for (and i would just like to say that i have an amazingly wonderful one right now that i'm crazy about!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! )