i can make the wife pretty much feel guilty and get almost anything i want by giving her a certain look... it's like i'm a little puppy dog...

i unno how to actually answer the question tho.... i guess kindness... people tend to be more helpful and willing to help if you're nice rather then being a dick... i'm very non-confrontive so i come off as really nice (if only people could mind read tho i just bite my tounge alot instead of telling a person off)