Quote Originally Posted by birdgirl73
Thanks for setting that straight, Gandalf. I was going to have to do that if you hadn't. Spliffstar, your response not only missed the mark, it was disrespectful to both the young lady Gandalf is talking about and to women in general.

Gandalf, I'd hope you can encourage your friend to do the right thing and make the break our of respect for the young lady--and then to help support her through that break and help her see that she deserves to be treated better. During that process, you'll be the one there treating her better, of course. The fact that you have found someone with whom you have chemistry makes me feel very optimistic. I know this is what you've been needing!

Thankyou birdgirl, it's nice at least you understand the situation . I will comfort her and such when it does finally happen, but I won't be making any moves until I know she's come to grips with everything. I want it to be real, not picking her up on the rebound.

And thanks to everybody else for their advice, you've all given me much to think about. Any other advice is of course welcome.