Quote Originally Posted by brussels
BlazinIt...In many ways, I can relate. I too have done the shrink route <a bust>, and forget the drugs, ya just don't feel anything.

One thing you don't mention, is your age. I has made some aspects easier to accept as I've aged. I'll be 28 this month.

Ok, processes that have seemed to work well for me are really quite basic. Go ahead and feel your feelings. As powerful as they are, embrace them, and the power of those feelings. That power is 'you': you own it. Every time you confront your feelings face to face, the 'power' of them is diminished just a little. Every time we give in to those feelings, they remain powerful.

Start thinking about forgiving; just as a notion right now. Look at forgiveness from different angles. Visualize it. Attempt to feel it. You don't have to tell someone they're forgiven, to feel it in your heart. and after all, that's where your hurt is.

Keep writing about your experiences, how you feel about them -- what it might look like if your early life had been as you would have wanted it to be. Write, write, write. Just remember to be completely honest with yourself in this project.

Learn a form of meditation that works for you. I use a kind of hybrid of transcendental meditation. It sounds simple to do, but takes focus and practice. Putting our thoughts and emotions at rest for thirty min or so, is an incredible state. Absolutely no thoughts what so ever. A blank slate.

Lastly, because 'damaged' developement/emotions are 'what we know', we have to relearn or re-parent ourselves. Our personal definitions of 'love,' 'truth' and 'trust' have been learned improperly. We were taught improperly. The two sources I continue to use today are books. If you read them, trust them.

'Road less Traveled' by Scott Peek, and 'Getting the love you want', Harvel Hendricks. they've been my roadmaps to redevelopment.

Hope this helps, and good luck girl...B
I think I am in love with you... ? :wtf:

But you are right, all I can think of to add is that I wasnt happy with myself until I learned to love myself and let go of regrets. Not necissarily forgetting about the past, but more the blame aspect of it. It doesnt matter whose fault it was, because it cannot be changed. All that can happen now is an acceptance that everything happens for a reason and our trials only strengthen us.



BlazinIt you are a beautiful person, I hope this happiness lasts and only increases with each passing day! I know that once I was able to love myself, I finally fell into the kind of catch-22 I wanted.. an upward spiral as opposed to a downward. Stay high and stay fly baby!
GraziLovesMary Reviewed by GraziLovesMary on . How do you let go of the past? Well when i was 12 i was kicked out of the house due to mothers boyfriend. Lived with all different kinds of people growing up and ended up at home here with gma. I guess im just curious to know what all you ladies have been through. i find myself connecting well with other girls who have had worse backgrounds, Why is this? I have Anger issues, and depression. I have been fighting to figure out a way to let go of all the pain inside me. I have taken medications that only made me feel Rating: 5