Can't finish....wtf?

[Nailhead]

I've had this problem for a while, and the wait it out method isn't fixing it. I don't know if I have some form of ED or I just need to work out more, or maybe I masterbate too much and that makes condoms impossible to use, but I can't finish when having sex. It's pretty embarrassing for a guy to not finish when he's with a chick, sometimes I've thought about faking it just to avoid that embarrassment.

I'm not fat but I don't work out, I do get some exercise from my work, but maybe it's not enough. Could this be a form of ED? I don't think it is because I took a bit long on my first time, so I'm wondering if maybe it's just something as simple as an issue with using condoms. I'm also paranoid about getting an std so maybe that has something to do with it, but wtf am I supposed to do? It's really affecting my life because I'm at the point where I don't even want to date because I don't want to be in this uncomfortable situation. The last girl I was with thought I just wasn't hot for her, but that wasn't the problem and I've been with girls twice as hot as her and still the same problem so I have no clue.

I'd rather not see a doctor so I'm asking here first to see if anybody knows what's going on

Nailhead Reviewed by Nailhead on 06-27-2007. Can't finish....wtf? I've had this problem for a while, and the wait it out method isn't fixing it. I don't know if I have some form of ED or I just need to work out more, or maybe I masterbate too much and that makes condoms impossible to use, but I can't finish when having sex. It's pretty embarrassing for a guy to not finish when he's with a chick, sometimes I've thought about faking it just to avoid that embarrassment. I'm not fat but I don't work out, I do get some exercise from my work, but maybe it's Rating: 5

[Spoken Word]

Only happends to me when I drink a lot of liquor... A LOT

[Nailhead]

but I'm not drunk....maybe I should be so I have an excuse lol

[Spoken Word]

haha at least they finish:thumbsup:then they tell their friends how good you are
this is of course if your just dating, if you're in a relationship it's serious

i'd get that checked out anyway..seems very important lol

[Nailhead]

not always....sometimes things go south before the fireworks set off. This is why I think maybe I need to work out more, I dunno....I also feel like I'm the only one that just can't use a condom. I don't like not using one, but when I haven't I don't remember much of a problem

[Hardcore Newbie]

Don't worry, same shit happens with me. The condom is a necessary evil, and yeah it's no where near as good as bareback. Have you had a long relationship with unprotected sex? If so, that's probably one of the reasons.

Another could just be the fact that you need to get comfortable with the idea. I remember with my exes it took a while to get to that point, probably like 15 times each at the beginning of the relationship where I couldn't come.

So more details bro!

[birdgirl73]

ED is erectile dysfunction, Nailhead. Means people have trouble getting or maintaining an erection. That isn't the problem you're having. They used to term the condition you're experiencing "ejaculatory incompetence," but now they more commonly refer to it as "delayed ejaculation." Here are two links. It's fairly common.
MedlinePlus Medical Encyclopedia: Delayed ejaculation
Delayed ejaculation (retarded ejaculation)

Are you by any chance taking any sort of medications such as SSRI antidepressants? They're famous for causing that side-effect.

[VaporDaddy]

I had that problem as a side effect of an anti-depressant. Are you taking any meds?

[Budman1970]

ED is erectile dysfunction, Nailhead. Means people have trouble getting or maintaining an erection. That isn't the problem you're having. They used to term the condition you're experiencing "ejaculatory incompetence," but now they more commonly refer to it as "delayed ejaculation." Here are two links. It's fairly common.
MedlinePlus Medical Encyclopedia: Delayed ejaculation
Delayed ejaculation (retarded ejaculation)

Are you by any chance taking any sort of medications such as SSRI antidepressants? They're famous for causing that side-effect.

I agree.


Quit whacking it and learn to enjoy your partner. And even though its probably not ED, you could still use some Cialis to increase sensitivity since you have to use a condom.

Condoms suck!

[Nightcrewman]

It's a lot more common than you think unfortunately its a tricky one to sort as it very quickly becomes psychological i.e. the more you try the less likely it is to happen. Visit the links that Birdgirl posted and try not to think too much about it it will happen eventually.

Cheers
NCM

PS It's hard to fake it using a condom