Quote Originally Posted by Darth Vapor
Imagine the pain you'll cause your wife, if you keep on this path of guilt ridden destruction, compared to pain you caused some broad years ago. Then we'll have to talk you down out of that tree. No offense, but your existance isn't what other people's lives revolve around. In other words, you want to unburden yourself of some pointless guilt of yesteryear, just to make yourself feel better. You don't want to make your ex feel better about what happened, so quit trying to sound like a martyr. You're just trying to make yourself feel better, not her. You apparently don't care if it hurts her, or her kid, or her new love, or your wife, or your son, or anyone else, so long as you feel better, but you hide behind this false pretense that you'll be helping your ex get over something.

In short... IT'S OVER!

You are Jack's Selfish Ego.
my wife acutally knows of the guilt... she knows history...

sorrry to tell you dude... but there are more than likey going to be problems in your life where you have to solve that should'n't 'actually matter' once your married...b ut they willl..... maybe you're not married and haven't gone thorugh it yet, or maybe you are marreid and just haven't gotten to them yet....

i'm married and have a son... i can't just run to her and make things right... which is where alot of the trouble resides... i have to make this right with myself so i can once and for all move on, while not destroying hers or my family.. and obviously (me and the wife have been married for 3 years... known each other for like 8... been together like coming up on 7?) just 'forgetting about it' is not exactly an option.... this has been plauging me for awhile.... and for the last year or more i've pretended it hasn't bothered me.. but it has... i need help.. so really.. please dude.... i'm sorry about any othe rthreads... but i'm literally at my ropes end here... i need help... and i'd really rather not have the negative responses...

btw... "how would your wife feel" or simliar shit really won't work... i KNOW how they'd feel (wife or son when he got older if i followed stupid decisoins) and that's why i'm trying to find a healthy way to deal with this shit.. without breaking up mine or her family...