Imagine the pain you'll cause your wife, if you keep on this path of guilt ridden destruction, compared to pain you caused some broad years ago. Then we'll have to talk you down out of that tree. No offense, but your existance isn't what other people's lives revolve around. In other words, you want to unburden yourself of some pointless guilt of yesteryear, just to make yourself feel better. You don't want to make your ex feel better about what happened, so quit trying to sound like a martyr. You're just trying to make yourself feel better, not her. You apparently don't care if it hurts her, or her kid, or her new love, or your wife, or your son, or anyone else, so long as you feel better, but you hide behind this false pretense that you'll be helping your ex get over something.

In short... IT'S OVER!

You are Jack's Selfish Ego.