I honestly don't have trouble seeing or agreeing with either side except for one thing.....He's feeling that she's not listening to him (and she's not). That's what got his bells ringing in the first place.....probably had some good undertone from his last marraige (which BG points out was his choice as well) and BG also points out that she went into it with unrealisitic expectations as well. I really think this could be resolved if they tried some counseling....when both sides hear something from a third person it tends to be looked at differently which my main thing about counseling. Everyone is always so sure its the other person's fault and if ony so and so would do such and such I'd be happy. .....counseling helps everyone sort out their roles and responsibilities in a relationship. Believe me (also as BG said) it takes two to tango......always.