I'm sure the pressure thing didn't help. She shouldn't have pressured him, but that's what ladies who get into that situation think will work. "Oh, OK, I'll move in with him and then I'm sure I can get him to marry me." (NOT.)

They key is to keep separate residences, make sure he knows you have other options, lay off with the pressure-cooker, and play it very cool and hard-to-get practically till you're walking back down the aisle from the altar after the ceremony is over.

A former four-year marriage isn't exactly a testimonial to a strong committment ability, by the way. If anything, it's the opposite. And that's fine. He ought to be commitment-shy if he already has one failed marriage behind him.