Well, birdgirl. I think you also have a point there. Maybe he's not ready to commit. I don't know if it's that he's necessarily a non-committing person, cause he was married before for like 4 years or something.

He told me that since he's met her, he has surprisingly gone from a position where he had sworn off marriage for the rest of his life, to a position where he thought it was really a possibl thing that would happen, but he was just not ready for it. IMO, I think that is a big step. For her to continue the relationship from the beginning when he told her that he would never get married was a risky decision, but he actually changed his mindset some, so there's something to be said for that.

BIRDGIRL, I think that one of the main things holding him back from marrying her is the fact that she was pressuring him throughout their whole relationship. He said that he asked her to just lay off of it for a few months or so, but that she would constantly be talking about it. He felt that she was not only pressuring her, but that she was not even giving him the ability to make his own decision. If he did take some time to do an introspective and decided that he wanted to propose, it would not be a surprise, nor would it be incredibly romantic because it would be the subject that they just talked (argued) about a few days prior.

It was like she was asking him to ask her to marry him. Is that not wierd?

I dunno, I guess I can see good points on both sides, but that's unfortunate, because it seems that they may be at an impasse. It's really too bad for the kids.


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