Well I have a feeling for her its less about title and more about her childrens' future......she's not just thinking for herself now. Fog described both sides very well.....although I would like to know the ages....that is easy to see both sides of the equation. I'm with Stinky (as usual ) that counseling is the way to go if they want to work out the relationship and just off the top of my head I'd say it sounds like it would be worth the work for them and could turn out to be a good relationship in the end.