Tom needs your help

[mesoto]

Tell Tom that true love is a gift often sought and rarely found. If he thinks his love might be misplaced, he has no business breaking a womans heart and his own by leading her on. Marriage is a big thing, yes, but you eventually have to commit or quit.
As for his woman, she was pushing the point too early. Getting a house is one thing, seven months dating is another. They both have something to learn from this.

mesoto Reviewed by mesoto on 06-23-2007. Tom needs your help I KNOW THIS IS LONG, BUT PLEASE READ IT AND POST YOUR OPINION. Thanks. :) So, this friend of mine came to smoke with me and while we were talking, he expressed a dilemma he is having in his relationship. He asked me what I thought he should do, but I really don't know what to tell him, so I though I would be able to get a wide range of answers from here and go pawn them off as my own...lol j/k about that last part. Anyway, so this friend of mine, we'll call him Tom. He has a child. He Rating: 5

[clever421]

marraige now a day is not as sacred as it used to be, it used to be that whoever you married you were stuck with them for the rest of your life now you can have divorse and get their stuff (if your a women) but usually the guy gets nothing he always gets screwed like my dad who would have raised em much better than my mom (and im not saying she did bad but my dad is just a better parent) i am not marrying unless i make sure i want to spend the rest of my life with her and if he feels that way then he should marry her sorry so long im high on cryp

[Bong ripper420]

marriage is a big mistake,
you should see my parents been married for 20 years and counting argue so much argue every day

[TheGreenFog]

Well im going to take a long shot here... this friend... tom, is it YOU?

Well, first of all, no it's not me. I just don't want to give away my friend's ID. Secondly, that is pretty immature of you, CC. But, I guess we can expect that from you...I mean you are just a kid still. Whatever. Nice addition to the thread, dude... :wtf:

Tell Tom that true love is a gift often sought and rarely found. If he thinks his love might be misplaced, he has no business breaking a womans heart and his own by leading her on. Marriage is a big thing, yes, but you eventually have to commit or quit.
As for his woman, she was pushing the point too early. Getting a house is one thing, seven months dating is another. They both have something to learn from this.

True, true. It's a shitteh situation.

He's doing alright, though. He's still sad...but he's living his life. He really has no other option, right. Life goes on, I guess. He did mention somehtin gabout the herb making him feel more depressed. I guess it could happen, since it makes you all calm and makes you think about stuff...

marraige now a day is not as sacred as it used to be, it used to be that whoever you married you were stuck with them for the rest of your life now you can have divorse and get their stuff (if your a women) but usually the guy gets nothing he always gets screwed like my dad who would have raised em much better than my mom (and im not saying she did bad but my dad is just a better parent) i am not marrying unless i make sure i want to spend the rest of my life with her and if he feels that way then he should marry her sorry so long im high on cryp

Yea, well, I'd like to think that not all women out there are gold-diggers. Some of them take pride in the fact that they can support themselves and are not ever stuck in a situation because they have to rely on the man to provide. He's a better parent than his ex, too.

marriage is a big mistake,
you should see my parents been married for 20 years and counting argue so much argue every day

Well, at least they're still married. I wouldn't go so far as to say that it's a big mistake...but it is definitely a big endeavor...especially when kids are involved.



OH well, I didn't really know what to tell him either. I mean, she already moved out and he really has no options other than to ask her to marry him...and even that seems more ridiculous now that they are apart. It's a rough situation. All I can do for the guy is blaze him up on a regular. :smokin:


Thanks for the comments, though, peeps. Any more are welcome. I'm still trying to figure out this whole relationship thing myself, too. They're tough.


Be cool.


The Fog :rastasmoke:

[TheGreenFog]

double post...errrr

[FakeBoobsRule]

Well, first of all, no it's not me. I just don't want to give away my friend's ID. Secondly, that is pretty immature of you, CC.

Maybe CC should have asked instead of assuming but I can see why he would say it.

It sounds like there are so many issues that need to be dealt with before taking vows. Have these two people gone to counseling? There also seems to be some non relationship issues like is Tom depressed and if so does he need to be treated?

[Weedhound]

Interestingly I've found that with good counseling good relationships are not tough.....and well worth the work of doing it.

tell your friend good luck.

Wh

[Skink]

Leave it be for now,,,if it was meant to be they will find a way back home...