I haven't laid eyes on my biological father since I was 5 years old. I tried writing to him and he never wrote back. Now that he's old he sent a letter asking if I could bring him to live with me and my sister who's not his daughter, and he tried to molest when she was 6. (he's in mexico) I said no. He has a wife and children who hes involved with (in mexico) but the'yre super poor. Am I wrong for saying no? I had one good stepfather when I was a young kid who I still speak to this day. I had many stepfathers, one who sexually abused me for years. The worst part for me is that my mother knew and did nothing. So I do have some issues with certain types of men. Not all men. Smoking helps me to forget but im not like hung up on it. I've never had therapy but i did find majick wich helped me deal with it all. and my mate is the polar opposite of both my bad "dads".