Girl Problem

[YouAintKnow]

Alright, so....randomly stumbled upon these boards so I am new here, but I saw this category and decided to snoop around.
Anyways, its a long story and I'm a talker so I'll try to keep it as short as I can...sorry if it gets to be too long. Anyways, without further ado.

To start off I am 17 and this past school year I was a junior. Ok, so to start of this year I basically changed my entire friend group to the seniors of our school. I played soccer for school and this girl (senior) had a crush on me and gave me her number one day after a game and told me to call her. So I did and we started talking a lot and became close friends. Soon I started to like her friend and that didn't end up working out, but the whole time as I soon realized later, she had liked me the whole time. Something randomly changed for me one day and I started liking this friend...A LOT. But shes weird in the way that no matter how much she likes you, if you push to hard, she pulls back, I pushed too hard and she pulled away from me for about a month and like we never hung out or talked at all.

Eventually, I talked to her and we began hanging out again and got really close. Basically, besides the first month of school I have had a humongous crush on her. Unfortunately, even though we hang out with the same group, she works with a lot of sketch people and is very shallow at the same time. (Her mentality seems to be- if your tall and a little bit older-she'll get attention and the guy is huge) And with her I always felt like lately I've been on the sidelines, even though I mean we've done everything there is to do besides sex.

Anyways...I'm in a huge predicament here because first off she is leaving for college pretty soon, so I mean I know a relationship is basically impossible. But, I know if she leaves I will be completely crushed because I love this girl to death and we love hanging out with each other so much (though because of her work, I have been neglected recently) With the stuff we've been through together I know she will never forget me, but now I feel like were slipping further and further away from each other. I don't know what the fuck I can do, but I know when she leaves part of me is going to die.

I'm really close with a lot of girls, so maybe she felt that I was the one who was never completely devoted. But I just am completely lost on this subject. Shes insanely tough to read. I'm not desperate for a girlfriend or anything, I've been with enough and I can get more (not to be obnoxious) but I know this girl is the one. Sometimes I think she doesn't care, but sometimes if I don't text or call her back immediately she gets paranoid and worried about me and calls me like 50 times. I've been so crazy for her this whole year. I would seriously re-live the last 17 years of my life just to be with her.

I don't even know what the fuck I am asking here. I am just so confused and this is a huge wall of text, even if no one reads this, its at least helping me clear out my thoughts in a way. But any advice or anything on what I can do would help. I'm sure a majority will say, just forget her....but thats like so out of the question.


*and once again, sorry for it being this long and all over the place....but its hard to think straight ya know.

YouAintKnow Reviewed by YouAintKnow on 06-17-2007. Girl Problem Alright, so....randomly stumbled upon these boards so I am new here, but I saw this category and decided to snoop around. Anyways, its a long story and I'm a talker so I'll try to keep it as short as I can...sorry if it gets to be too long. Anyways, without further ado. To start off I am 17 and this past school year I was a junior. Ok, so to start of this year I basically changed my entire friend group to the seniors of our school. I played soccer for school and this girl (senior) had a Rating: 5

[GraziLovesMary]

No dont forget her.. write her a letter. Tell her how you feel.. really pour your heart out. And slip it in her purse.. or wallet.. somewhere where she will see it soon. She sounds like a real cool girl, I hope things go right. Just dont screw yourself over with unrealistic hopes for the future. You said shes going to college, thats something that you really shouldnt interfere with.. thats her future. However... theres nothing stopping you from going to that same college :P except maybe time and money lol, I know thats whats stopping me right now...

[YouAintKnow]

Yeah, I've just been trying to avoid things being awkward. I have some good friends, but they have some big mouths...so unfortunately last xmas she found out I liked her, but I knew it was too soon. But things became so awkward and I hated it, but then she started liking me and I didn't know what to do. The letter is a good idea, I'll give it a shot.

And uh...shes going to an ivy league school on vball scholarship. So...uh, based on my academic performance junior year, my chances are slim to none, though I am athletic and good at soccer. But I'll still apply, just for kicks if anything. Though there is nothing stopping me from going somewhere near there, just would be kinda weird maybe, I don't know.

Any other suggestions?

[geonagual]

Don't be a friggin chicken and tell her the truth on how you feel..what do you got to lose?

[YouAintKnow]

Her?
I'm sure everyone says this, but she really is so different.
Even if she likes you a lot, if you do something too soon or it feels awkward, she will shut you down. I know this from friends, experience, and her telling me...

[GraziLovesMary]

Her?
I'm sure everyone says this, but she really is so different.
Even if she likes you a lot, if you do something too soon or it feels awkward, she will shut you down. I know this from friends, experience, and her telling me...

Dont worry man I know the type, I know the type verrrry well as I am most likely going to let go and lose forever a girl just like that. Its such a hard decision to make because all the factors that play into your situation go back and forth so much... she knows you like her, she likes you, but it sounds like shes afraid of something... that something is what you need to find out.

[geonagual]

Dont worry man I know the type, I know the type verrrry well as I am most likely going to let go and lose forever a girl just like that. Its such a hard decision to make because all the factors that play into your situation go back and forth so much... she knows you like her, she likes you, but it sounds like shes afraid of something... that something is what you need to find out.

exactly:thumbsup:

you cant overcome her objections if you dont know what the problem is. You will have to ask some questions of her and I know your walking the thin line as it is...just try and be as delicate, coy and tactful as possible.

[khronik]

She could be hesitant to start a relationship because she'll be moving away soon and all that.

However, we tend to want what we can't have, and I hope that your desire for her is based on considerably more than the fact that she's playing hard-to-get.

[Reefer Rogue]

Whip it out.

[YouAintKnow]

Whip it out.

haha, believe me I have. Prom we almost had sex, but don't think she was ready to yet, so we just uh...fooled around for a while.

And no, I'm not after her because she has been playing hard to get. And yes, I think partly the reason she doesn't want a relationship is because she is going away to college, but theres something more. I guess I'll try to just talk to her. How I am going to go about doing that and bringing it up I have no clue as of yet.