Quote Originally Posted by birdgirl73
I wish guys would listen more to women on this subject than other guys who pretend to be great experts.

How old is your ladyfriend, Clever? Are y'all teenagers, by any chance? Because orgasmic ability is often much slower to arrive for young women than you'd think. It's not uncommon for some ladies not to have their first orgasm until they're in their twenties or later, especially if they're shy about self-exploration or have had any sex-is-dirty conditioning. The classic teaching in sex therapy is that a girl first needs to know her own sexual response and know how to elicit that on her own. In other words, masturbate to orgasm. Then once she knows how her own response works, she can teach a parther what works for her. This is yet another reason why not to listen to the online male experts. What works for one woman doesn't necessarily work for another.

Some other things that get in the way are self-consciousness about their bodies or unease with the sexual situation. If you're not in a quiet, private place where there aren't any distractions and she's not comfortable and relaxed with her partner, that makes things a lot more difficult if not impossible. In a recent study in the Netherlands in which they looked at how the female brain worked during real orgasm, they were able to clearly prove that women needed to be anxiety- and fear-free in order to have an orgasm. The parts of the brain that govern fear and anxiety are literally switched off when a woman has an orgasm, which is essentially a total loss of control (another thing that holds some women back--that feeling that they're going to lose control). That switch-off needs to happen for her to reach her peak, and so if she's even mildly fearful or anxious, she's not going to hit the high note. This confirms what most people have always believed and what women have reported in study after study over the years. And I'm convinced this is why women who're in steady, monogamous relationships with partners they love and trust have much more satisfying sex lives than those who jump from partner to partner.


ok so i made myself read all 30 lines of what you said but all i got out was \/
Quote Originally Posted by Gurtej15
u should fuck her harder:jointsmile:
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fatsackville Reviewed by fatsackville on . girl who doesnt like orgasms?? i have a question about this girl im sorta with, well we dated for a year and i lost my V to her and then we broke up didnt talk to a year etc etc but she ahs never had a orgasm with any guy shes been with 4 i think and she says "its not that kind of feel good" now i thinking shes lying but she says everytime she is about to she makes me stop wtf is up with that??? Rating: 5