girl who doesnt like orgasms??

[clever421]

i have a question about this girl im sorta with, well we dated for a year and i lost my V to her and then we broke up didnt talk to a year etc etc but she ahs never had a orgasm with any guy shes been with 4 i think and she says "its not that kind of feel good" now i thinking shes lying but she says everytime she is about to she makes me stop wtf is up with that???

clever421 Reviewed by clever421 on 06-15-2007. girl who doesnt like orgasms?? i have a question about this girl im sorta with, well we dated for a year and i lost my V to her and then we broke up didnt talk to a year etc etc but she ahs never had a orgasm with any guy shes been with 4 i think and she says "its not that kind of feel good" now i thinking shes lying but she says everytime she is about to she makes me stop wtf is up with that??? Rating: 5

[Gurtej15]

i dont know probably u should fuck her harder:jointsmile:

[clever421]

i try but it hurts her >.<

[GraziLovesMary]

It depends on what type of orgasm. Are you playin with her clit? Or are you just fuckin her and shes about to cum? If its the second option, she may be approaching a vaginal orgasm which is (from what Ive heard lol) MUUUCH different.

The G-spot is known in the medical world as the Urethral Sponge. It is composed of erectile tissue and surrounds the womans urethra, swelling with stimulation to prevent vacation of the bladder during sex. There are a large number of nerve endings that the sponge surrounds, including the clitoral nerve, so it is a very pleasurable spot to stimulate during sex for most women. However, this does not mean that all women find it pleasurable, some dont.

Also, it is important to note that a majority of women say that when this g-spot is stimulated and they come closer to orgasm through its stimulation, they feel a stronger and stronger urge to pee. She may be confused by it.. thinking that shes about to piss the bed or something and is stopping you. Maybe she had an orgasm like that and she came everywhere and thought she was pissing. Ask her about it and if she admits to that being the reason explain that its not pee... shes not pissing, shes cumming lol. And tell her its the hottest thing you ever could have imagined.

[clever421]

damn bro thanks i think ill just write down what you wrote and read it to her :thumbsup:

[oldsanclem]

90 % between the ears and 10 % between the toes.
gozil is right , but taken with a grain of salt as the old saying goes.
Done right once they come up the ramp to a climemax , it does not take long for them to have more.

[birdgirl73]

I wish guys would listen more to women on this subject than other guys who pretend to be great experts.

How old is your ladyfriend, Clever? Are y'all teenagers, by any chance? Because orgasmic ability is often much slower to arrive for young women than you'd think. It's not uncommon for some ladies not to have their first orgasm until they're in their twenties or later, especially if they're shy about self-exploration or have had any sex-is-dirty conditioning. The classic teaching in sex therapy is that a girl first needs to know her own sexual response and know how to elicit that on her own. In other words, masturbate to orgasm. Then once she knows how her own response works, she can teach a parther what works for her. This is yet another reason why not to listen to the online male experts. What works for one woman doesn't necessarily work for another.

Some other things that get in the way are self-consciousness about their bodies or unease with the sexual situation. If you're not in a quiet, private place where there aren't any distractions and she's not comfortable and relaxed with her partner, that makes things a lot more difficult if not impossible. In a recent study in the Netherlands in which they looked at how the female brain worked during real orgasm, they were able to clearly prove that women needed to be anxiety- and fear-free in order to have an orgasm. The parts of the brain that govern fear and anxiety are literally switched off when a woman has an orgasm, which is essentially a total loss of control (another thing that holds some women back--that feeling that they're going to lose control). That switch-off needs to happen for her to reach her peak, and so if she's even mildly fearful or anxious, she's not going to hit the high note. This confirms what most people have always believed and what women have reported in study after study over the years. And I'm convinced this is why women who're in steady, monogamous relationships with partners they love and trust have much more satisfying sex lives than those who jump from partner to partner.

[clever421]

im 17 and she is 18 and i know she has masturbated and has had an orgasm (at least thats what she told me) but she said she hasnt had an orgasm since she was 13 (Which i dont believe

[birdgirl73]

Well, keep in mind that teenaged girls aren't the same wank-machines that young men are by any means. Sounds like something's up.

Has she ever been a victim of assault or sexual abuse by any chance?

[clever421]

well actualy she is scared to "touch" a guy like with her hands she only does it if you ask her too because she told me her ex b/f forced her too one time but then after we broke up she had sex with him... (its really messed up) so i cant say if its true for sure