Suggestions needed, story included

[Loathsome]

First of all, I'm 17 years old, a senior in high school, and I've been smoking for about 2 years. I've never smoked at home, out of respect for my parents and their home. My bong and bud are at my girlfriend's dad's house, where I have to stop over if I want to smoke. More and more, my girlfriend is having problems with pot. She used to smoke with me everyday, and then she smoked less and less, and now she doesn't really smoke at all and she doesn't like it when I want to smoke... so I've smoked once in the past 4 days. So recently, I've done a lot of thinking about how, or even if I should smoke at home. Because it's summer, and we don't have an air conditioner, I'm moving my room down into the basement. My mom told me on the phone that when I'm finished moving my stuff that she's going to clean my room, so I should get anything out of here that I don't want her to see. I'm very puzzled about this statement, but I don't really have the balls to ask her what she meant... because I don't really have anything in here that I wouldn't want her to see.

So my question is this: Does anyone have suggestions about how I could start a pro-marijuana conversation with my mom, or if I should just try smoking here to see if they would even notice?

Thanks in advance for your help.

Loathsome Reviewed by Loathsome on 06-14-2007. Suggestions needed, story included First of all, I'm 17 years old, a senior in high school, and I've been smoking for about 2 years. I've never smoked at home, out of respect for my parents and their home. My bong and bud are at my girlfriend's dad's house, where I have to stop over if I want to smoke. More and more, my girlfriend is having problems with pot. She used to smoke with me everyday, and then she smoked less and less, and now she doesn't really smoke at all and she doesn't like it when I want to smoke... so I've Rating: 5

[BUSHwhacked_420]

hide the shit at your house. sounds like your gf might try to dispose of your shit if she doesnt like it ne more.

[FakeBoobsRule]

You are a 17 year old male, maybe she isn't thinking drugs at all but other things. Maybe she thinks you might have a Playboy or Hustler under your bed, condoms, pics of naked girlfriends, love letters, etc. Maybe it has nothing to do with drugs and your mom is being really cool respecting your privacy. She might not know you are smoking and you are about to open a can of worms. Maybe she thinks you have a beer or two hiden somewhere and not pot.

That is very nice for her to respect your privacy so enjoy it because this is a rarity.

I would just take it easy and not say anything but thank you for respecting my privacy and how you appreciate it. That might get her to say something more revealing. Maybe she has seen too many Las Vegas commercials and she feels "what happens in your room stays in your room."

:thumbsup: to your mom!

:thumbsup: to you for respecting your parents.

[Loathsome]

I really have no idea what my parent's stance on marijuana is because they've never talked to me about anything, really. We never had a "birds and the bees" talk, or a talk about drugs or smoking cigarettes.

I have considered that she might be talking a playboy, or dirty pictures, and this could be what she was actually talking about.

Thank you very much for your responses!

[doctor G]

When my children were under 18 I knew they were smoking but for legal reasons I asked them to help me maintain "plausible deniability" keep it out of site, preferably not in the house,
Starting a conversation: whew tough one. What are their politics? Right wing crazies? Left leaning liberals? Where did they go to college?
read my post "tales your parents won't tell you" that was my history inthe late 60's
My age? looking at sixty and a grandfather 4 times. I am looking forward to watching my grandchildren grow up and if they are interested of course I will share a smoke. I have been smoking almost 40 years so I have a bit of an attitude.
And by the way you are showing exceptional maturity and respect for an individual of your generation and if your parents are any reflection of you I think they could handle the conversation. Start with the easy stuff, "say mom did you ever smoke pot when you were in college?" and see where that takes you.
Oh yes, avoid the pills and powders, if it don't grow don't use it
Doctor G

[mfqr]

When my children were under 18 I knew they were smoking but for legal reasons I asked them to help me maintain "plausible deniability" keep it out of site, preferably not in the house,
Starting a conversation: whew tough one. What are their politics? Right wing crazies? Left leaning liberals? Where did they go to college?
read my post "tales your parents won't tell you" that was my history inthe late 60's
My age? looking at sixty and a grandfather 4 times. I am looking forward to watching my grandchildren grow up and if they are interested of course I will share a smoke. I have been smoking almost 40 years so I have a bit of an attitude.
And by the way you are showing exceptional maturity and respect for an individual of your generation and if your parents are any reflection of you I think they could handle the conversation. Start with the easy stuff, "say mom did you ever smoke pot when you were in college?" and see where that takes you.
Oh yes, avoid the pills and powders, if it don't grow don't use it
Doctor G

Cocaine is a powder, and it grows in the coca plant! So are you condoning the usage of cocaine? :thumbsup:

[jaGerbom]

Cocaine is a powder, and it grows in the coca plant! So are you condoning the usage of cocaine? :thumbsup:

yeah but u cant just straight take the shit off the plant and stick it up your nose. unless im wrong. it takes some kind of human intervention. ....as far as i know.

[Loathsome]

Doctor G, you are a huge help! Neither of my parents ever went to college, my dad has done construction all his life, and my mom has a decent job at the local hospital. I've thought a bit about stuff to make sure to tell my mom when I start up a conversation, about how I have my own job to support my habit, and I don't drink and have never partied. Are there any other worries my parents might have that I should bring up?

[doctor G]

Parents tend to be terrified of a couple of things. Being arrested, the concenquences WILL follow you for the rest of your life. Getting bad stuff ( hey they don't know) being addicted ( yes I know) associating with "bad" people and geting into "trouble", expirementing with "hard" drugs.
And of course all the propaganda that has been fed to them over the years.
Find and watch the movie "GRASS" there is a ton of GOOD information and accurate scientific information. You will also see the propaganda that affected their parents and them. Remember this lie has been repeated for over 70 years. there is a lot for them to UN-learn.
It is your job to educate them without offending them. A very tough gig
take care
Doctor G

[4twentE]

I think Dr. G summed up everything pretty well. I just wanted to give you props for parental respect. So few kids have it these days.