I can respect that you're being honest and straightforward about your marijuana use, and hopefully your dad will be able to recognize that and respect it too. If it doesn't work, at least you tried, and also showed him that you care about your relationship with him.

It's a tough situation. Be truthful and hold your ground, and there is a chance that your relationship with your dad will be further damaged or even destroyed (if he's really that stubborn). If you lie and say you're clean it may preserve the relationship, but you'll have to learn to live that lie whenever you're around him. The only other option besides these two would be to stop smoking weed; but that obviously comes with a cost also, and it's more of a cost than just not getting high anymore, it's giving up your rights. Ultimately, you have to weigh the costs and decide what it is you're willing to sacrifice.

Just remember that your dad is doing this because he loves you and cares about you and wants to protect you; he thinks he's guiding you away from a bad life-choice.

If you do choose to hold your ground in the long run, consider continuing to send him letters to keep him informed about your life and to remind him that just because you continue to use marijuana that doesn't mean that you don't care about him or want your relationship with him to suffer.

Good luck, I hope he comes around...
afghooey Reviewed by afghooey on . Disowned By My Dad Because of Marijuana So I got a call from my dad last night and he said my mom told him I was smoking weed and that I wasn't to talk to him until I have quit. I tried to reason with him but it was no use. He kept saying "You were not raised like that" and "It is wrong and illegal." Here is a letter I am going to send him along with a fact sheet about marijuana. Let me know what you guys think: Rating: 5