depressed

[tokinstoner]

i am really depressed. I find no joy in life anymore. i have stayed back in school, this girl that i've loved for so long said no to me because she made a promise with her friend. My family is broke, im broke. i wanna kill myself, i cant sleep anymore and i havent eaten im three days im looking for some advice on how to get rid of this. or else it might take over me

tokinstoner Reviewed by tokinstoner on 06-09-2007. depressed i am really depressed. I find no joy in life anymore. i have stayed back in school, this girl that i've loved for so long said no to me because she made a promise with her friend. My family is broke, im broke. i wanna kill myself, i cant sleep anymore and i havent eaten im three days im looking for some advice on how to get rid of this. or else it might take over me Rating: 5

[Greenport]

see a shrink its what I did, helped a little bit..

[tokinstoner]

i am seeing a phycologist

[Maggz]

I heard prozac helps

[Breukelen advocaat]

Just a few questions. When you say that your family is "broke", what does that mean? Are you homeless, or on the verge of it? Are you not eating because there is no money to buy food? Does not eating always seem to make you feel worse, or better? Have you discussed your depression with your psychologist?

[tokinstoner]

Just a few questions. When you say that your family is "broke", what does that mean? Are you homeless, or on the verge of it? Are you not eating because there is no money to buy food? Does not eating always seem to make you feel worse, or better? Have you discussed your depression with your psychologist?

We arent homeless, but we are on the verge. Broke means we are barely surviving and i cant even get a job. I don't eat because i am just not hungry anymore since i've been depressed. The money is tight on food though. I have discussed it. He said we can work it out without meds, but i need them. I have suicidal thoughts constantly. My best friend who has been my friend for 10 years said even he would feel safer if i was on meds.

[Breukelen advocaat]

We arent homeless, but we are on the verge. Broke means we are barely surviving and i cant even get a job. I don't eat because i am just not hungry anymore since i've been depressed. The money is tight on food though. I have discussed it. He said we can work it out without meds, but i need them. I have suicidal thoughts constantly. My best friend who has been my friend for 10 years said even he would feel safer if i was on meds.

I'm not a psychologist, but I've dealt with a lot of problems in my life. You have to realize that there is something wrong, possibly a sickness, and not eating is making you sicker. In my case, because of celiac disease, eating certain things made me feel worse, even crazy - and not eating was sometimes a relief, but not a solution. This may be an eating disorder, or a potential one. Eating a small amount of healthy foods such as meat, fruit, nuts, fish and vegetables every day will make you healthier than you are now, until you can get on a full diet.

The psychologist is probably right about taking medication. I tried zoloft for a year, and it helped. Your doctor may have a medication that is perfect for you, or at least good enough to help get you through this, along with counseling.

As far as work, isn't there a part-time job you could get? You have to grab a prospective employer and convince him or her that it would be beneficial for them to hire you. If there is extremely high unemployment where you live, or you live in a remote area, this may not be easy, or even possible. You may want to try social agencies for help with employment. You might be eligible for food stamps, if you haven't got them already, .

If you can't think straight, the problems will get worse. I'd advise listening to the psychologist - they are trained to help people like yourself, but it doesn't work unless you cooperate.

Good luck.

[brains]

smoke pot until you cant see. i thought everybody knew that. and prozac is a really big help, as i got put on it a few months ago. youll still feel crappy, but the crappy wont turn into depression. check it out.

[Breukelen advocaat]

I forgot to mention Exercise! This can help. But again, you have to eat.

If you follow your therapist's advice, and it does not help, then I'd suggest that you try someone else. It sounds like you have a serious problem, so it is imperative that you continue therapy.

There are a number of good psychology books regarding depression, anxiety, etc. I'd recommend almost any by Albert Ellis, who started Rational-Emotive therapy. Most cognitive therapy is also good, and Dr. David D. Burns' books, incuding Feeling Good The New Mood Therapy , are also recommended. You can find their books in used or new book stores, and the library.

Again, listen to your therapist - it's the best thing you can do.

[Storm Crow]

I'm sorry you are so down, right now. It will pass, eventually. Do you have a good friend you can talk to? I know you are seeing a psychologist, but I know there are things that kids would NEVER tell an adult. (I saw a shrink when I was in my teens, too.)

I'm guessing you're out of pot. Asking if some kind friend would smoke you up might help. Be honest with them how you've been feeling. A dealer friend came over the day I learned my Mom had suicided. We were flat broke. She took one look at me and handed me a small baggie of Columbian and said "Pay me when you can." Suicide can really screw up the surviving family. And that's all I'm going to say on that subject.

Next, your girl "said no" to you. Was this like "No, I won't go out partying with you tonight 'cause I promised Julie we'd go to the mall"? Or was it more "No, I don't want to be with you,'cause of what Julie told me about you and I promised her I'd break up with you"? I imagine it is somewhere in between. Remember teenaged girls are fickle and changeable. If she doesn't want you- it's her loss!

Yeah, I know you've loved her for a long time, but come on, my boy, it really hasn't been all that long. And there WILL be other girls! The kind of pain you're in right now hurts a lot, but it will get less. Just take a little time.

You've been held back in school? That IS a bummer. That is something you need to do something about. I work at a school (I'm that older teacher's aide, who is always smiling) I wish you were near by, I could help you. An easy way to study is get a tape recorder (check the thrift shops) and read your reading assignment into it. Play it 4 or 5 times and you will know your history, biology or whatever!

You need a job. I'm not sure how old you are, but there are summer jobs available. A "McJob" is better than nothing. So shower and shave, and head down to EDD, or if you're really to young to work and live where there's lawns. Take your lawn mower and go door to door offering to mow lawns for $10- this was a common way in the 1950s for kids to make money- and most of us just had "push" mowers and, yes, it was hard work. We got 50 cents to a dollar per yard. (Exercise is essential in fighting depression, according to a recent study- so go for a walk in the park if nothing else.)

Next, most folks don't realize that your diet has a LOT to do with how you feel. I think you need some "B" vitamins. Some of the "B" family of vitamins help you keep your head on straight. Without them, you can get depressed or a bit crazy. They are water soluble and the get flushed out of your body every day. So you need them every day. The good news is they are cheap! I usually can find them at the Dollar Store - a one month's supply for a buck. They're about twice that at Walmart. Eat as healthily as your family's budget will allow. (Sometimes I think there is a deliberate conspiracy to keep the poor unhealthy so they have less energy to think of revolution.)

You will sleep soon, but right now, you are sleep deprived. You can get paranoid, depressed even worse, or even hallucinate from lack of sleep. You sure as hell aren't thinking straight- lack of sleep is really tough on the brain! Make something warm and soothing- chicken soup, cocoa, chamomile tea. Drink it and go to bed. Being tired only makes things seem worse.

Child, you are at the bottom right now- there isn't anywhere to go but up. And things WILL get better! But for now, eat something, then get some sleep! Take care of yourself! There are people who love you and care about you. Even if you and your family are having problems, they DO love you. Please don't do to them what my Mom did to me. Someone once said that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Your life will be good again! (((big cyber hug))) - Granny:hippy: