Good old 69--and this is true of all the women I know with whom I've discussed this subject--is not all it's cracked up to be. Sounds good in theory and seems rather exotic because it's supposedly two-way pleasure. But it's not nearly as pleasurable as taking turns and my doing him and then him doing me. With 69, you have to try and concentrate on two things at a time, my pleasure and his. And it ends up being a terrible distraction both ways. If I'm trying to provide and receive oral pleasure at the same time, I can't lie back and just enjoy the sensation and focus my mind and energy on "cresting the peak." Same with him. He's trying to enjoy what I'm doing to him and yet has to split his focus to do me. If you ask me, it's only fun in theory. One at a time with the entire focus on one partner and then another is a much more sure-fire way to have fun. For a long time I thought I was the only one who felt this way, and one night at a party after a bunch of friends and I had had too much wine, we all discovered everyone thought the same thing.