I hate to tell you this, Lags, but every woman is different in what she likes and doesn't, as far as oral and manual technique is concerned. That's why all the detailed advice makes us girls double-over laughing (I'm taking into account the marvelously humorous comments I've gotten behind the scenes here, too). If a guy's not relying on his lady of the moment to communicate to him her own unique likes and dislikes, he's expending a lot of effort for nothing. The best lovers let their individual partners be their guides.