Polymirize, this one's for you:

I cannot go into any of the details here because taste and decorum??and the fact that, at least until this thread was begun, I was happily married??prevent such explicit narratives. But if I were to lose my beloved husband and had to embark on finding the next fantasy man of my dreams, I??d like to ??do these guys six ways from Sunday,? as my spouse might put it:

Polymirize
George Clooney
Tim McGraw
Jon Bon Jovi
Jimmy Smits
Quincy Jones (as a younger man)
Gael Garcia Bernal
Kenneth ??Babyface? Edmonds
Brendan Fraser
Michael Beschloss (a remarkably handsome political historian/writer)

These men all have good brains, good hearts, good politics, good creativity.