I need help. =(

[Skink]

I think the bottom line here is self respect... lose the negative view of yourself... I kinda read this in you from your posts,,,reach for a rainbow and lose the deathwish guy you think you deserve...

[Inferius]

I think the bottom line here is self respect... lose the negative view of yourself... I kinda read this in you from your posts,,,reach for a rainbow and lose the deathwish guy you think you deserve...

Skink you know exactly what you are talking about.

None of us would find ourselves amongst people who dis-respect us if we only took the time to love and respect ourselves, before seeking someone else in our lives. When you get to know yourself, and accept and value and love all parts of yourself unconditionally, then you can see the people around you for who they really are. The people with that same love and respect for themselves will be attracted to you, and you them. Of course, the same people who have low self esteem will also be attracted, but with rationality and intuition you can tell who is the right person for you.

Peace and Love.

[not_the_kitty]

I would tell him to keep his shit together if he wants to stay with you, the 15 and 20 thing is no biggie tho, my parents are atleast 5 years apart. But if he keeps getting fucked with the law then get rid of him, no one can take care of you from inside of a jail cell, if anything make him join the military, its like jail but atleast you get a gov. check if your married.

[Reefer Rogue]

Personally, I believe this relationship has very little chance for a future. There are much better guys out there for you who will show you affection.

[zeebo phillips]

Thank you for all the help, guys. I really appreciate it.

I found out today that I didn't talk to him for the past few days because on Friday he was arrested for punching his father while intoxicated. His brother had to tackle him down to the ground when the cops came. 6 months, possibly less. But he's not allowed back in his house...and who do you think he's going to come running to? :thumbsup:

I think I got this though. Hopefully.

[Skink]

Thank you for all the help, guys. I really appreciate it.

I found out today that I didn't talk to him for the past few days because on Friday he was arrested for punching his father while intoxicated. His brother had to tackle him down to the ground when the cops came. 6 months, possibly less. But he's not allowed back in his house...and who do you think he's going to come running to? :thumbsup:

I think I got this though. Hopefully.

Your gardian angel intervened... on your 410th post too,,,that has ALWAYS been my lucky number...

[M3nt0R]

I would tell him to keep his shit together if he wants to stay with you, the 15 and 20 thing is no biggie tho, my parents are atleast 5 years apart. But if he keeps getting fucked with the law then get rid of him, no one can take care of you from inside of a jail cell, if anything make him join the military, its like jail but atleast you get a gov. check if your married.

It depends when your parents met. And if we're going to go to families about this stuff...my friend's grandparents are FIRST COUSINS. They are...were (before his grandpa died) happily married, had great healthy kids, etc. Does that make it right? Besides, the age difference isn't the same when someone is 15 and 20, then when it's 20 and 25. It's all about proportions and relativity. That's like having a 10 year old get with a 15 year old, you get me? It's less serious the older you get, but at age 15, to be with someone who's 20 (and the guy is 20), chances are you're gonna get used. It's at a critical age in life where guys are at their horniest, they are still in college (or in the age and mindset at least) and just want to party and get laid. Possibly settle down, but that's rare.

My advice is that there will definitely be someone worth your time that won't use you. Hell, I'm 17 years old and I'm still a virgin. I don't think I'm really ugly at all, I'm just not only patient, but have self-respect as well. There are guys that will jump on any opportunity to get laid...to me it's not about getting laid..it's WHO you're getting laid by. is it really worth it to do it with someone you'll regret? If he's a major fellon like that and has been to jail twice and all that, what kind of future do you think he has? What kind of husband do you think he'll be? What kind of father? If he gets you pregnant, how would you deal with it?

It's just not worth it. From your descriptions, sometimes he has sex and makes you leave? Wtf is that he's not showing you the affection you think he is and you're in a dangerous position. Don't let him take over you, he's giving you pleasure, not love. You need to find someone who will love you, even if it means no sex (at least for a while or w/e). You seem smart enough to be able to manage that!

If you need anything, just message me on myspace, you know how it is

Till then just keep on tokin' it'll never let you down.

[zeebo phillips]

I got a call from "Cook County Corrections Facility" yesterday...couldn't answer the phone because the battery was dead.

I'm expecting a call later...ugh.

[Skink]

I got a call from "Cook County Corrections Facility" yesterday...couldn't answer the phone because the battery was dead.

I'm expecting a call later...ugh.

Well???

[BabyFacedAbortion]

I'm not even reading the responses until I tell you to cut the shit out.

I was involved with a 21 year old when I was 15 (two years ago) and not only did I fuck myself over in the end, I fucked him over too. He was arrested and a lot of shit went down because he was fucking me. It lead to me dropping out of school and being an emotional HORROR. Ask Skink, he remembers. I really thought I loved him, and maybe I did. But the relationship wasn't right...it wasn't healthy. Luckily I got out of that rut but it took nearly a year. Get out while you still can, please, for both of your sakes. From his sloppiness in life (NO OFFENCE..but he keeps gettin' caught.) he's going to get caught with you eventually and you better hope to god you don't piss someone off and they go running to the police. He can get statutory rape, child abuse, molestation, and child endangerment charges amongst other things. He will always be a registered sex offender and it will follow him EVERY WHERE. When he moves, his neighbors will be notified, job interviews, everything. I'm not trying to scare you but it really happens hon. It happened to me. If you aren't going to leave him because it's wrong, leave him because you care.

You need to ask yourself the questions I never wanted to ask myself;
Why would a 20 year old want to be with a 15 year old?
Do you want to keep hiding this from everyone?
What's going to happen when they find out, to you and to him?

Imagine yourself with a guy who doesn't make you feel like the dirty little secret, who doesn't screw you than kick you out, who doesn't take advantage of you. You are still a little girl and he's a grown man. I hate to put it that way, but it's the truth hon. People like that are not good news.

I know you won't listen but I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. I've been there. Get out while you still have your grasp on life.