It's not the kids that you shoudl be worried about... children can be wonderful... it's the unresolved divorce and violent ex.

One of my very closest friends is single, late 30s, and lives in a very rural area with limited dating opportunities.. there simply ARE no women his age WITHOUT kids... I commented on it once and he shrugged it off saying, there is no better indicator of the character of a parent, than the attitudes which they instill into their children. And yes, he has dumped girlfriends immediately after discovering that their children are ill-brought-up. Just a bit of cud to chew on.