Separated chick with kids...date?

[lagstronaut]

A good idea would be to have her tell her kids that you are only her friend and nothing more, so that way you are not some minor father figure to them. Once you become a sort of father figure in any way, shit can get fucked damn quick

[Markass]

I have a dilemma. I guess she is interested because she likes to hang out and she calls me and she yelled at me for not saying hi to her today. We have fun when we are together and we smoke together which is great. She is 3 years older than me. She's 1/4 Syrian and I think that makes her more appealing to me because I love Arab looking chicks although she is German too like me. But she is currently separated and has 3 kids.

Do you think I should date her? I am still in college.

honestly, I wouldn't date her considering she has three kids...unless you're THAT interested in her. If I was in your boat it would be a good time for me to have a friend with benefits...see where things go man, don't need a serious relationship like that though when you're trying to get through college and get your life headed down the right path...hope it helps man, good luck :thumbsup:

[rebgirl420]

B-A-G-G-A-G-E!!!!

[Markass]

B-A-G-G-A-G-E!!!!

lol exactly...that's why I suggested fwb, it meets that criteria for me

[PlantBoxer]

Never get into a relationship with someone freash outta a relationship, or a divorce, and give yourself at least 6 months till you get involved again.
Many humans just are not thinking correctly with fresh wounds, wounds we cant see.
Time cures all things, give her and yourself time to really get to know each other...have a few fights, some compromises, some differences in opinion. It's always easy to get along with your exact copy, but how many times do we find that in a mate?
Best to you and your lady!!

[Exodus_herbman]

I personally love being around kids, I believe they are much closer to God than adults, but thats just me. What it really comes down to in a relationship is whether she has qualities that would make it an endure. It sounds like you fall for the Arabic women just like I do ( I am actually taking Arabic Linguistics in college ) Do what you feel is right tho man, and I wouldn't let the kids play that big of a role in whether or not you will date her. Dating isn't permanent, and like Boxer says time cures all things. The best of luck to ya'

[crusty old stoner]

When dating a woman with children remember this... ya gotta pet the calf to get to the cow

[Psycho4Bud]

at least wait until the husband is fully out of the picture. If he finds out shes seeing someone it might make him even angrier.

At this point and time in history I'd be a bit leary about pissing off some Syrian dude. Unless you see her as the love of your life you may just want to take three steps back.

Have a good one!:jointsmile:

[stinkyattic]

It's not the kids that you shoudl be worried about... children can be wonderful... it's the unresolved divorce and violent ex.

One of my very closest friends is single, late 30s, and lives in a very rural area with limited dating opportunities.. there simply ARE no women his age WITHOUT kids... I commented on it once and he shrugged it off saying, there is no better indicator of the character of a parent, than the attitudes which they instill into their children. And yes, he has dumped girlfriends immediately after discovering that their children are ill-brought-up. Just a bit of cud to chew on.

[suhl]

i wouldnt want to raise someone elses kids. it isnt right if you ask me and i am someone who had a step mom for most of his childhoood. god knows if i had kids i wouldnt want some other guy raising them. and the fact is the kids no, that no matter what you ever say to them, their mother is the reason you are there whether you like them or not, you are there for her, not the kids. that is why i never liked my stepmom. she was nice to me for the most part, but there is just no getting around that fact. so i think it is wrong, but people are doing it all the time, so give it a whirl.