I don't know what your relationship is with your Mom, how close you are, etc, but have you thought of writing her a letter asking your questions? It eliminates the face-to-face embarrassment, gives her time to think and formulate an answer. I think it would be best if you "primed the pump" by explaining to her that you are sending/giving her a letter with some questions that are personal in nature, but that you feel you need (not "want") to know. Tell her you are doing it this way so that she can think about her answer and not feel like she's been "put on the spot" with you demanding an instant answer right that second. Reassure her that no matter what the answer is, you love her and respect her and always will. Then go do something nice for her- make dinner, clean the living room, something like that. - Granny:hippy: